Mike, sorry to read your note. I understand your issue. If Jessica is trying to do the paperwork by herself, it is going to take a long time and you will get very anxious about the delay. i have had to use XiuRu's brother, a translator, an English teacher at the school, made the visit with face to face talks, and it still took a very long time to get the papers necessary for the visa. In fact, the best way was for my lawyer to tell me what we needed, i went to China, and brought the papers back with me. for additional items, i would send an email and ask for a very specific item. remember, keep it simple. I agree with Paul. now is not the time to pull back. If you are sure in your heart of this woman, now is the time to travel and work thru the process. You have everything to win if you go to china, and the world to lose if you stay in Canada. I hope you take time and look in your heart and follow your faith. buzz