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INFO: CHINESE MEN TOWARDS DIVORCED CHINESE WOMEN

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Okie_Rob:
This was a post not really a question in the official Chnlove Forum....by A member: Jim from Kelseyville...USA....from his lady....but really gives insite or information on how Chinese men view a divorced Chinese Lady in their country........below is a copy and paste, but written so well:

"This is a paragraph out of a letter I received from a beautiful 50 yr old woman. For some of the really new guys it may help you to understand what the women in China deal with"... "I think I have to tell you why I want to look for a western man. There are facts here in China, and it is also the reasons why I could not find a Chinese man to remarry. The facts are: firstly, most mid-aged single men want to find young beautiful girls (girls in 20s); secondly, most of them want to find rich women, at least the women must have a very nice salary; thirdly, they do not want to accept the women's kids, as they only love their own kids; most people have discrimination on devoiced women, they think the women are not good, China is a traditional country, the old people always said the wife should listen to the husband. So it is very difficult for a divorced woman to find true love in China, although there are also some luck divorced women have found their right men. I feel it is unfair here. I have learned a lot of western culture. I know that in your society, people do not look down up on the divorced women. I want to find a man who love me and want to share his life with me from his heart. I do not care what he has and what he comes from. I just want to find a nice man, hope do not be cheated again. I hope he is honest. And my families told me to bear, to accept, as Chinese women always do, but long time later, I did not want to bear any more, so I stop my last marriage. The life after my divorce was difficult, but I feel better because I get freedom."

Chong:
If one was to conduct a poll, probably the "majority" of ChnLove men are also divorced or in their forties & above. So they don't care if the Chinese ladies are divorced. Having witnessed the attitude of Chinese men, they aren't exactly "prize catches" themselves. There was an observation at a Restaurant where the husband entered the place first, followed 5 minutes later by his wife. He ate first. There was no conversation at all during the lunch. As they left, he walked ahead of her. Conclusion, NO courtesy at all.    :evil: 90% of Chinese men are liked this. The father of the lady I visited said "I Love You" to his wife once in the past twenty years.  Yes, some western men are like this also. A self-respecting woman shouldn't have to put up with this no matter where she's from.

Paul Todd:
My lady had a baby girl, her husband left her and remarried very quickly after this. He took her daughter and would only return the child after she signed over her appartment to him. She said it was a "difficult time"!!!!

victor-hills:
Well put guys neaver new it was that bad.

dude:
I didn't notice this when I was in Wuhan...I seen many older men, 30's on up, arm and arm with ladies...I'm assuming wives...Yanfang did tell me she wasn't used to all the I love you's and kisses...she even mentioned something about western women being used to it...damn with any lady I've been with it is the norm...in China it is different!  :o

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