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INFO: CHINESE MEN TOWARDS DIVORCED CHINESE WOMEN

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maxx:
I read this in the China daily post the other day.

Irishman:
And yet there are probably millions of divorced and single ladies out there over 30 that cannot find husbands, its hard to understand.

ahkiwi:
Sorry to necro this thread.

If the men fell this way about divorced women (with & without children), how would they feel about an unmarried (never married) solo mother?
I suspect she'd be even less likely to get a boyfriend (let alone a husband), than a divorcée with a daughter.

David E:
Can we get this "Chinese Men" thing in context guys ?

We should stop dumping on Chinese men over their attitude to their Women.

If you think that Chinese men have all got together somewhere and decided to treat Women like dogs, you are mistaken.

Their attitudes have been hard-wired into their behaviour for 3000 years plus! They regard it as pefectly normal and would be horribly confused to know that we think badly of them because of it.

That they dont think like we do is unfortunate, but it is only one of the cultural differences we will find as we begin our search for a Chinese wife.

There are also some glaring cultural difference betwen Chinese women and the idealistic model we have of women in the western world.....again, their way of thinking and doing has also been hard-wired.

If we think that we can simply "retrain" both men and women from China to behave exactly as we would wish in our western world, I think you are sadly mistaken

Know the differences, accept the differences...try to meet half way !....or at least step over the fence and look at it from their perspective....they think we are equally peculiar :):)

DavidE
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And yet there are probably millions of divorced and single ladies out there over 30 that cannot find husbands, its hard to understand.

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Irish

I dont find it difficult to understand this....in their culture, Men place extreme value on their wife being a virgin who will provide for them a son ! That is how they view life....it is their culture.

Divorced women dont qualify in this, neither does a woman with a child.
David

ahkiwi:
hmm ... I think I didn't phrase my question in the right way.

I'm certain not out to denigrate Chinese men nor the Chinese culture and I apologize if that's how it seemed.

I don't think that "Chinese men have all got together somewhere and decided to treat Women like dogs" and certainly didn't insinuate that they did.

What I do want is information ... information on how they think, both men and women. I would have thought that being a solo mum would be outside their culture, their beliefs and their values system, so how did it come about? (I have one theory that has nothing to do with the Chinese)

The fact that they don't have the same values as the westernised countries isn't "unfortunate", it's just different, nothing more, nothing less. Understanding those differences will help in trying to understand how they think, how they react, how they look at the world, etc (hopefully ... maybe).

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