Well guys, I have ran into something I do not quite understand, so I thought I would ask for your thoughts. You may recall I posted about the lady I am talking to was upset because her ex husband would not agree for their daughter to come to US. Also her mother was very ill, and she had to take care of her for now. So she could not spend a whole week in November with me as we had planned. Normally I would think "ok, fine, she just doesn't want me to come." But I saw her face and her tears as she was talking about her mother, so I really think that was on the up and up. At that time she tells me she does not want to cause me delay in finding a Chinese wife. So I should talk to others.
Well, I did that. But she was always on my mind and I just could not get interested in other ladies that wrote to me. Also, I kept thinking what kind of person am I if I give up on her just because her mother is ill. So anyway we still kept in touch. (I know this is long, but I'm getting to it) She would call, we still chat on QQ. Now here's the puzzle I cannot figure out. Last night she was helping me with my Chinese Lesson (that is an experience online, hard enough with the instructor in the same room) so I asked if I could visit Chinese New Year. She says air tickets and hotels are very expensive at that time. And yeah, I figured that. I asked when can I visit..She says March. Then she says again she wants me to talk with other ladies. She wants me to be happy. After scratching my head a bit, I ask if this means she doesn't want to talk anymore. She says no, we continue to chat. I say, does this mean you have decided there is no way for us to ever marry. She says no, she never said that. Again she tells me, "I want you to be happy" You should find the best lady for your future. " I tell her I like her and want to meet to see if there is a future for us. She smiles at that, but again, you should still talk to others. She heard me sigh, and asks "Why you sigh" I told her my head was going round and round trying to figure out why she kept telling me to talk to other ladies. She just smiled but still talked about finding the right one.
Soooo....I have never had any lady tell me this (in any country) unless she wanted me to quit talking with her. But she still wants to talk, says she wants to meet sometime, and marriage is not out if we click.
So what should I think about this? We have been talking for several months. No EMF's, always on phone or QQ. or an occasional email.
Give me some thoughts, guys. You married guys, ask your wives, what does this mean?
Don