Thanks Brian.
I have been very sick recently, so most of what I wrote last week was a little crazy at times. Maybe there should be a 7 day rule for when you come back from visiting your lady.
I guess my lady and I are both a little confused. We need more time together, and more time talking on QQ. It is difficult talking to her about relationship issues though, as her knowledge of English just doesn't extend to this area. Google translations aren't usually that great and our translator is going through a bad patch. My lady also doesn't like it when I write about more intimate things in an EMF, hmm that's something that other brothers might like to bear in mind.
I am not in doubt about wanting a wife. I am clear on that. Being with my lady was great. Being here alone is not great.
My new Mandarin teacher is excellent, and she is starting to get me interested in the language. That has been the barrier to me learning Chinese, and it is gradually being dismantled.
China was very different to what I'd imagined. But I did enjoy my time there. Sichuan cooking is great, and I am now cooking it at home. I am convinced I am looking for a wife in the right country. I deal with immigration in work, so I know the pain involved.
I guess we are confused about the role of the different genders. My lady's mother is from Shanghai, and when I met them it was clear she was in charge of the family. Here the man is traditionally in charge. Hmmm, Mr Wu's role really had me puzzled.
As to the lack of affection, well we need more time together. But she bought me a lovely cake, and made sure I didn't get killed crossing the road. Obviously my lady is younger than many of the ladies talked about here. She is young and doesn't have first hand experience of having a useless first husband who gambles/whores/drinks the family finances away. I talked to divorced ladies on chnlove and they were practically begging me to come and visit them - I guess by experiencing a bad man you get to appreciate a good man a lot more.
As to the other issues, well not everything I write here goes in a EMF. My lady and I have had a good QQ session today. We did get on very well in China. I was very calm when I was with her, this is why men can buy 700RMB coats without saying a word. Really we could have done with a few more days together but she had to go back to her slave job as it was difficult enough for her to get 5 days off to meet me.