Andy
I am sorry to hear about your decision, but certainly respect your right to do what you think is best for yourself and your future.
I think I might claim some experience of failing to find the "right" woman...I went to China 5 times before I found this Forum and all the incredible and wise advice that the Bros have posted.
Since I found this Forum, I have been very precise in my correspondence with maybe 8 Women in all...I have said (politely), early on in the correspondence that I would only consider a longer term correspondence with a woman who was prepared to send original photos and who would be prepared to speak person-to-person on QQ or telephone.....I got this advice from somewhere on this Forum, but I cant remember exactly who said it, but it is right !!!
As you would expect, several women tried to sneak around this rule of mine....and I suspect it was the translators at work here !!
But several women responded without any problems about what I had asked and they sent the photos and we arranged QQ sessions ...no problem.
It is said, that of all the eligible women on CHNLove, perhaps 10% meet your criteria in some way. ....and, of all the Men on CHNLove, you maybe meet the criteria of 10% of the women. So far it looks like the potential for a good match is running at 1% !!!!!!
So my point is...its probably a numbers "game" and the trap we fall into is to extend the time of correspondence in hope that things will get better....but we keep throwing money at it when we should move on !!!
The sound advice I got here was to give it a good, honest try, but understand and accept when it is time to move on and look for another woman.
Maybe you have come to far with understanding to give it all up
??...becvause there ARE some GREAT Ladies out there in CHNLove...we just gotta dig harder to find them
. There are many wonderful stories here of those Bros who have made it.
You have discovered all the traps and red flags already.......you have done the hard yards...time to have a win
Good luck, whatever you decide
DavidE