Re: Happy now!!!

[MLM]

Rob, I know how you are feeling, even though I met Zhou here in the States, the first time I went to see her I was a nervious boundle that couldn't have told you my name if you asked me, the whole time I was on the plane, I thought I was going to be sick, I didn't know what I would have done if she, as you say like Ting or some of the others, but the minute I got off the plane and our eyes meet we knew, we haven't stopped touching each other since then.
by the way she has been here now for a little over 5 years and her things have just arrived from China in a container, it took 3 weeks to get to Cali. from China, was inspected then we were notified, I hired a truck and it arrived here in my drive way after 2 weeks on a truck, now when she gets back from China I know what I will be doing for the next 5 to 10 days, unpacking the damned thing, hhmmmmm..., maybe I will try to unpack it before she gets here as a surprise, what do you think???
sorry got side tracked, I think the two of you will be fine, it natural to have those thoughts Rob, don't danxin I feel good about the two of you.
Zhou called this morning all she said was " Wo xiang he ni zai yi qi, wo ai ni " and then she started crying, so did I, then she said, " Ni shi wo hen gao xing ".

[Skip]

Rob, I know how you are feeling, even though I met Zhou here in the States, the first time I went to see her I was a nervious boundle that couldn't have told you my name if you asked me, the whole time I was on the plane, I thought I was going to be sick, I didn't know what I would have done if she, as you say like Ting or some of the others, but the minute I got off the plane and our eyes meet we knew, we haven't stopped touching each other since then.
by the way she has been here now for a little over 5 years and her things have just arrived from China in a container, it took 3 weeks to get to Cali. from China, was inspected then we were notified, I hired a truck and it arrived here in my drive way after 2 weeks on a truck, now when she gets back from China I know what I will be doing for the next 5 to 10 days, unpacking the damned thing, hhmmmmm..., maybe I will try to unpack it before she gets here as a surprise, what do you think???
sorry got side tracked, I think the two of you will be fine, it natural to have those thoughts Rob, don't danxin I feel good about the two of you.
Zhou called this morning all she said was " Wo xiang he ni zai yi qi, wo ai ni " and then she started crying, so did I, then she said, " Ni shi wo hen gao xing ".

So, Michael, for those of us who don't understand and can't get Google Translator to work, would you share what that means in English please.

[Arnold]

I can tell you the first : I want to be with you , I love you .

[MLM]

Hi Skip, sure I can do that, Arnold is right for the first part and the rest is " Ni shi wo hen gao xing " = " You make me very happy ", and danxin = worry.

Arnold if I get a sale sign it will have to be for all of my furniture not hers, hers is a very dark wood with rose wood inlays and hand carved on the legs of the table and chairs and cabinets, the sofa, love seat and chair have wood on the arms and they match the dinning room things, water paintings, bedroom furniture for her and I and for Lili, Woks of all sizes, from one that is 6" across to one that is almost 2' across, a steamer set (bambo), kitchen knives and a cleaver the size I have never seen, this thing is hugh for a cleaver I think.
I even found way in the back a dead palm tree, so I'm think WTF???, when this small lizard comes running out of the darn tree, scared the hell out of me, there is so much stuff in this container, I might have it all unpacked and put where I think it should go in about 4 weeks, of course when she gets home I WILL be spending the next week after moving it all to where she knows it should be, Hahaha.

[MLM]

ROFLMAO, that just brought back some good memmories for me, thank you Arnold.

[Scottish_Rob]

You guys are funny...ROFLMAO

[MLM]

Hi guys, I guess you all know about the woman I am helping here, lets just call her Mary okay, first Zhou knows her and they are good friends and Zhou knows what is going on, I called her, Zhou told me that I am doing the right thing for our friend, now that being said both girls are saying the same thing, and I agree, that it would look wrong for Mary to move in here with out Zhou being here, but Zhou says I am to pay for her ( Mary ) hotel room and food until Zhou and the kids get back, then Mary is to move in with us until she can get on her feet, this part I am not to sure about, I think it will strain our relationship, don't get me wrong, I want to help, I would never cheat on Zhou, but it just doesn't feel right to me and have said this to Zhou, she says we must do this for our friend or lose face, so for now I guess I am going to do as my Lao Po says I should do.
Marys husband beat her up pretty bad, it was some where between a beating and torture, he beat her until he broke her jaw, her left hand, blacked both eyes bruised her ribs and legs and then dislocated two fingers on her right hand, guys, do I need to say I am fairly pissed off with this guy, but as I stated in the shout line he has been placed in jail for the night or until he can get bailed out.
I am staying at the hospital tonight and all day tomorrow just incase he cames by to " Talk " to her, she now has a restraining order against him but, like the POPO said, they can not watch over her all the time, so I'm it, and I will use my employees to help cover the time of watching over her at the hospital and the hotel.
Again thanks to you all and especially you MIke MPO that was right on time, I knew there was a reason I belonged to this group other then the friendship, the brotherhood just might have saved her life, a heart felt thank you from Zhou and myself for our friend, bless you all.

[MLM]

Mike I have a business and it is for working for bailbandsman and the local law, also for the US Marchalls office, so I have 3 teams of 5 men amd women working for me, they will do some of the watching at the hotel also, I write the pay checks, LOL, I took photos and the police did also along with the hospital x-rays we are asking for from them as proof for USCIS, and I have kept a jurnal the moment she called me and am still writing every little thing in it, for police, USCIS and to cover my butt with Zhou also :icon_cheesygrin:, My Daddy didn't raise no fool.
I told Mary where I got the phone # from and she has asked me to tell the brotherhood and especialy you Mike, Xie xie ni , and she also says to tell you, you are a hero in her mind, and I am to respectfully bow to you for her so heres to you Mike. ( as he bows deeply )

[MLM]

Sorry Arnold for spoiling your dinner but I needed info and Mike was fast to give it, it was "only" a phone number to USCIS but with it and the information she received from them she decided to leave him for good, and to me, his help with this might have just saved her life.
I really belive that the next "beating " would have killed her.
I had the phone # but at the time I couldn't find it, but Mike and the brotherhood have come through when needed most.
I didn't know where else to post this so I put it where I knew it would be read, Mary's story should be told and read, so others will see what these women have to deal with, sometimes when they come to our countries and what must run through thier minds when they first think about leaving China to be with thier husband.
Some times thier fears become reality, then what, they don't know what to do, especially if they are in there late 30's or older, some of them belive that this is the way it is to be.
I also gave her this Phone number, 1-800-799-7233, it's for Chinese speaking women that have been through domestic abuse, it's open 24/7/365, of course that was before Zhou told me she ( Mary ) would be living with us as soon as she gets back from China.
So I have been camped out here at the hospital all night, my back hurts from trying to sleep in those chairs, my head hurts from lack of sleep, but I know I don't hurt as much as Mary does.
Well my worker is here and Mary knows I am going but that Ms. mei is here with her, guys you think its hard to speak with your jaw wired shut, try clenching your teeth and say something in Chinese, it hurt my jaw just listening to them talking, okay I'm going home for some real coffee, a shower and some sleep.

[Irishman]

Geeze, what a story, hard to imagine any man capable of such violence to a women, it totally sickens me.
Sorry I wasn't able to help, had no idea what USCIS was (do now since Mike posted the link).

I hope Mary makes a full recovery, sounds like she's in good hands with you looking out for her, I hope the guy that did that to her gets put away for a long time.

[Darius]

Michael... Thanks for sharing this terrible sad story. The same feeling as Arnold hier. Most certainly it wasnt the first time. I cannt understand why these women do put up with everything but i would now realize at first hand why every 4 minutes a woman in China commits suicide. It is by far the highest rate worldwide. This beautiful chinese culture press on their shoulders and could never exist without their pains.

I tip my hat to you and am proud of having you in our brotherhood.
.....The same to you mike.

[MLM]

Hello, I'm back at the hospital and all is well, okay as well as can be expected, Mary is resting , she should be they gave her enough Demmeral to drop a horse.
I thank you all for your kind words for me and Zhou but the truth be known, I would do the same for anyone who is a friend and now I extend this to the brotherhood also.

Arnold, your right, I was home to take the phone call when I am usually at work, and then Mike "Happened " to just look at the shout page...hhhmmmm.

Darius, your so right, and this is a shameful thing this world has come to, someday it might change but not in the forseeable future.

Vince, I offered her this service and went as far as to contact the shelter but after they spoke with her they agreed to sent some one to the hotel to speak with her and also said they would make sure it was going to be a councelor and two other women that have been and are going through what she is now, all of whom are Chinese, when I mentioned a shelter Mary started to panic but, talked to them anyway.

Now, I have heard that her ( Mary ) husband has been bonded out as of 8:30 am this morning and he is highly pissed off, Hehehe.
There is still the restraining order on him and he has been informed of this, so if he comes around he goes back to jail, yes !!, I have never wished this on anyone but for him, I hope he becomes Bubba's bit*h.
Sorry I had to Edit this a little, oh and Arnold I also find this beyond belief, it turns my insides to a knot, there is no reason for someone to do this to any one, this was more then a beating, when you hit sokeone that is a beating but, when you take the time to dislocate finger joints one at a time this then becomes torture and this should never happen.
sorry guys this just makes mevery mad

[MLM]

I thank you all my brothers, I have PMed Arnold about what he wanted to do and I would rather you all did as i have asked of him.

Marys husband tryed to get into the hospital today around 2 pm he made it to the floor that mary is on but was stopped by a policeman that was there and the cop was one of the ones that arrested him, he was told he had to leave and when he didn't the police arrested him again and Mary never knew he was there.
All in all it has been an interesting day, I think I'll read some more of the boards now and if anything happens I'll update you all.
Again thank you all.

[MLM]

GOOD MORNING all ( sorry cap lock ), well Mary will be leaving the hospital some time today, having the female employee stay with Mary at the hotel was the about the smartest thing I could have done, remember Mary has a broken left hand and dislocated fingers on her right hand, well how would she take care of buisness in the bathroom....... yeah thats what I thought also, So Ms Mie has been spending time here with Mary at the hospital and guess what, they have become good friends, Mie says its easy to be friends with Mary, so if nothing else a new friendship is born here.
Yesterday when I found out that Mary would be discharged today I had the people at the office call the hotel and reserve a suite for her, so now she can check in anytime today, she also has an appointment with my lawyer tomorrow ( her idea ), he is coming to the hotel to meet her, she wants me there with her at the first meeting so guess where I'm going to be tomorrow LOL.
I've used this divorce lawyer twice now so he is good, he is also going to do this for free,.... yeah, free, I almost fell off my chair when he said this, we had talked for an hour as I explained what was going on and all the x-rays and photos and the police report we had and then I asked him how much was this going to cost me and thats when he said he would do this one for free, I still can't belive it, when I asked why he said these 5 words and that was all he would say about it, " What goes around, comes around ", ya know for a lawyer, not a bad fellow.
gotta go breakfast has just arrived ( Mie has arrived with something she cooked for us, God I hope it isn't chicken feet again ).

[Irishman]

That is real nice of the lawyer, like Arnold I tip my hat to him, definitely one of the good guys. I hope he tears this a-hole a new one in court.
You're a good guy too Michael taking care of Mary like you are, a hat tip to you too sir haha!
I hope Mary makes a full recovery and next time finds a man that will treat her right, she certainly deserves a good man after whats been done to her.