Andy , one thing I learned writing to my Wife and my two " Sister's " Chinese Women do NOT want to be a Burden on the Person there writing to . They have too much Self-Respect to ever let this happen . She is very right , that this could be also a Hurdle you must overcome .. one way or the other .. if there is going to be a happy and harmonious Couple .
That is really something , you must show her ... not in writing . You must show her HOW MUCH you LOVE her , by doing certain things for her , that only a Man that is totally in love with her would do .
I give you an example : While it was pouring Rain outside , I drove for two hour's last year about the samr time .. to find Snow . Why ?
I was determined to build her a Snowman and I did . I was holding with one Hand an Umbrella while with the other I build this Snowman for her . This shows , you mean what you say and do .. to any Lady . My Wife still brings this up with every trip I have taken .
You choose , what is best for you two ... in your Mind , but do it . I'm sure you'll both be glad YOU did .