Hey guys
Have been doing some work and staying in touch with Li Na. A little development happened yesterday in my communication with the translator and Li Na. I was talking to the translator on qq. Li Na contacted her on qq at that time and asked the translator for a translation of which she then asked me what I was trying to say. Long story short I told her that was not mine, but it must be from someone else contacting Li Na. The translation was referring to “compromising the relationship”, so that is why the translator was asking me for an explanation. When she determined I was the wrong person to ask she gave me an apology for the mistake. Now I don’t know if the translator truly made a mistake or was playing dumb and letting me know what was going on. She has become a friend of mind, so I know she plays it straight with me. It intrigued me, so I qq’d Li Na about it (she didn’t know the translator told me this) and asked if she contacted the translator for a translation. Li Na’s reply to me was “no”. That was an eye opener. Then she texted back and said “oh yes” after a pause from her previous answer. She then went on to tell about the contact she got from a guy who has been writing her, and trying to send her a gift. Several days before she was to tell the guy that she is seeing someone else and please don’t send any present, as it is her birthday tomorrow. She thought I might be mad about it, but I told I was not, but I know where we stand. So you see why I keep my options open? I am not saying this will not work out with Lina, but as I said before I learned not to put all my eggs in one basket. As time passes if it works out with us then I will want to marry her, if not then at least I won’t be starting over like before. She felt I was not jumping up and down over the event and sent me an email explaining fully the situation. It seemed to be a sincere letter, so I accepted her explanation and we are not talking about that anymore. We’ll see how it plays out. When I initially found this out that day and learning from my past I immediately called up the Oriental agency and asked if she would contact one of the girls we picked out when I visited. Long story short the translator emailed me to let me know that one of the women could meet me the same evening after she left work for the day. So I met Nancy over in Louhu and we went to have a dinner. Mind you I have not sent one letter to this girl. So no EMF money spent lol. Anyway her English was just good enough but not quite totally, but I still had my Besta that I kept when I left Nanning. I would have been kicking myself if I did not have it with me, but learning from past mistakes is paying off. If you’ve read my previous post in Nanning you would know I almost left it with Lina. We had a nice talk and I found out about her family and her plans on marriage and children. She is a pretty girl also. Don’t want to leave that out lol. I think what I like about her most is that she is so calm. She just naturally puts you at ease with her personality. I really like that. That was two nights ago and I knew she was busy all day yesterday preparing for the holiday, so we were not able to meet. I don’t think I will be able to see her (if she still wants to see me) until I come back. I leave tomorrow. I left a message to the translator if she heard from Nancy and if there was any interest on her part. I have not heard back yet, but it is the holiday, so nothing is happening as usual right now.
On another note I have been in contact with a girl I met here back in August. I didn’t meet her on any of the services chnlove, cll, blossoms, etc.. I actually met her in a Starbucks one morning in Shekou. When I live here I am totally less dependent on the services and their games. I can meet people easily, so it isn’t an issue. I just moved into my apartment at the time in Shekou and I didn’t have a coffee maker yet, so I would always get up and walk about a quarter mile (as the crow flies) and get there when they opened. The Starbucks is in the sea world area. I am sitting in there by myself at about 7:05am relaxing and waking up with my coffee. This stunning looking girl comes walking in with her laptop and sits in a different section. So I went over and asked if she would mind if I joined her to chat. She accepted. She is from the Philippines and is a teacher over in Zhuhai and was off on a break for a few days. She spoke clean near perfect English, which was a relief. Quite intelligent. Had a very nice talk and stayed in touch through email and skype. We wouldn’t talk often because we had conflicting schedules so the connection was extremely fragile and could easily have went the way of never talking again at any point. We just didn’t talk much, but we still barely maintained our communication how little it was. We have been in contact on my trip a couple of times only because she went to Thailand with her parents for a couple of weeks. We both do want to meet again. I think she senses what I am that we have hung on this little communication and want to see more if this means anything between us. I don’t know why I kept in touch other than a couple of skype conversations of her telling me where she is in her life. Who knows could this be the woman all along and I just don’t know it. When I return we both will see if this means something or nothing.
I leave to go back tomorrow. This trip was not a failure by any means, but a building block to finding the lasting relationship that I seek. I am looking for that spark again. Like the one I had last year. I’m a little protective of getting emotionally involved. I’ve been tore up and as some of you know yourselves it is not pleasant. I am fortunate enough to be able to do it this way, and it is the best way other than living here full-time. To live here for long periods of time and integrate into the culture, one is able to really meet special people who have something to give in their own way. Not just women but people in general. Business contacts and the whole feeling of the culture. I hope to bring my 7 year old daughter with me this summer while she is off of school. I return to Shenzhen March 2nd , so I will only be gone for a couple of weeks. I plan on staying here for the entire month of March and a little of April.
I would have tried to post pictures of my trip, but my computer’s permissions seem to be blocking me. I don’t understand it, because I can send pictures in any other platform except this one for some reason. A phenomenon lol. When I figure out the solution I will do so if you guys are interested. I have many lol.
That about covers it.
Jeff
