It was weird for me too. The first week we moved onto direct contact via QQ. Bad translations, bad connections, mixed in with fantastic moments of pure joy and a little sadness. The first month was a lot of loving and learning. The second month was tougher. She got busy, I got busy, translations got worse, we would go a week without contact and then feel frantic and miss each other terribly, have some great conversations and then back to time apart. Now we're finally finding our balance. We don't really have a schedule but we make time and keep each other informed about what is happening in our lives.
As a side note, not to hijack this thread - Nina finally got my package I sent over a month ago. Language cd's, a movie with Chinese subtitles and a letter from my Mother (who she calls her mother) that she can't stop gushing and raving about. It's moments like this that make it all worthwhile.
For advice, I'd say, find your balance. It will take time, it will take some ups and downs. It's different for everyone. For me balance means understanding and a sense of calm acceptance. Nothing I can do will change things quickly so we have to wait out the storm.
Like Irish says, never forget the 24 hour rule. Those shadows of doubt can be killer. Have faith, trust and love and it'll all work out good in the end.
Oh, one more thing. Keep busy. You'll drive yourself insane sitting at the computer waiting for her to come online, waiting for that email to show up. Get out, live your life, be the man that she fell in love with or be the man that she needs you to be.
It was hard for me because I don't have television, I use the computer for entertainment so I'm on it often. Sitting there, you become painfully aware how long it has been since you've last talked. I've had to find other things to occupy my time, and in the process have lost a lot of weight, gotten in better shape and started eating a lot healthier.
