Ok guys here's the script....
The reason i stopped it with Anne was for 3 reasons. And before anyone thinks about replying please take these thoughts into your head. Don't look at it from what you your point of view. look at from mine...
1) She lied to me about her age...
Ok this was only a little white lie, I accept that... However...., I had been lied to from my wife for I don't know how long, and from kathy 1, for a full 11 months. How could I be sure this little lie from Anne would be the only one? I thought long and hard about this, I did not make this decision easy.
2) I did not want to marry someone younger than my eldest daughter (33).
I knew in my heart that Anne would have had a very hard time from my daughter, ad also my eldest son...
The two of them are very much against this type of age group. I spoke to them about it a lot, and they were very frank and truthful in their replies.
3) My peers
I am a very shy type of guy, believe it or not..I think a lot about what people THINK about me.
I know this shouldn't matter BUT to me it does. I didn't want to walk down the street in the UK, and get people looking and sneering at me, they would be thinking 'Oh he is with his daughter or granddaughter' This is not me, I would NOT have been able to handle this situation...NOT with my Scottish Temprament...
That's the Anne situation talked about...
Now for the real story.
As you know me and Kathy 2 have spoken almost everyday 2 times a day. I have told her everything and never lied about anything. I told her about this site from day 1, yesterday I was talking to her and I explained about the 'Speaking Chinese Thread' and told her to view it. This morning when I started speaking to her, she sent me a picture, which I thought was the usual 'Heart' that she sends me, so I opened it, and there was the picture of me and Anne, well the first thought that came to my mind was, that when I had sent er pictures, maybe that one was in amongst them
this was not the case...She had come into the site, and read my thread, all of it. Now this is not a problem, because as I had said, I'm sure I told her. BUT, she has intimated that I left Anne for her, which is NOT SO. She wanted an honourable husband, because of my actions she no longer saw me as that. She told me to go back and marry Anne, which IS NOT going to happen. She also mentioned that SHE did not want to be that Chinese girl like Anne, again I tried to reassure her. She told me that she needed time, of course that is understandable, but within the next 5 minutes, it was over.
There are many thoughts running round my head at the moment I can't seem to focus..
I have decided tonight that maybe I am fighting another lost cause...And because of this, I am 'NOW'... NOT WILLING TO PUT MYSELF THROUGH ANY MORE GRIEF LIKE THIS. 3 Chinese ladies, 3 times lied too. So I am not going to search for anymore Asian woman.
One thing I will say...I LOVED THIS WOMAN MORE THAN I HAVE EVER LOVED ANYONE
I will come back into the site now and again and read up, and try to help the brothers if I can...
but I will no longer be part of this brotherhood.
Thanks for everything guys, and the best of luck to each and everyone of you.
To those who are married have a happy life together
To those who are about to marry, good luck and I hope she is everything you hoped for
And to those who are still looking, good luck