It has been a while since I updated what is going on between Peggy and me. I am still talking with her twice a day and getting nothing done at home. So I am going to suggest we drop off the am visit and bring back the pm one from the beginning time. She comes out between 9:00 and 9:30. Because I get up so early I like to go to bed around 9 and lights out at 10. I am beginning to walk around like a zombie so something needs to change. We stop around 11:00 to 11:30.
Peggy and I have talked about so many subjects so I just might do this by subject.
Moving to America
Initially Peggy asked me where I wanted to live and I responded I prefer American but I am open to different ideas. She told me she did not want to leave China and would like to live in Shouguan in Guangdong Province where she grew up. Her children live there and she wanted mt to teach in the university there.
Then one day she comes out and tells me she wants to live in the US. It has been that way ever since. I guess little sister had a little talk with her. The only thing I said when she suggested we live in Shouguan was that was an option that we needed to explore and that I was trying to be open minded. I did suggest that Shenzhen might be a better place to live since it was a much larger city and we might find much better jobs there. Also we could build an Export business much easier there.
Building a Business
I spoke with Peggy about the desire for me to build a business there, preferably an export business. That chat got me a sit down meeting with her American bother in law. He basically read me the riot act. Their concern was that I was using Peggy to make some contacts and build the business then dump her. I said, "I see your point." He went on to explain what a wonderful person Peggy was and that she would make an American man very happy and lucky if her married her. He did give me some info about business in Shenzhen, then a few more warnings, and abruptly got off of the computer. Next up was Peggy's little sister.
She was much kinder than her husband but had the same concerns and expressed them in a very diplomatic way. I told her that I would not mention business again unless Peggy brought it up or I had confirmed plans to go there. She accepted my reply.
About a week later Peggy began talking about business and it has been a portion of our conversation ever since. On her own she went out and got the information needed to Export goods to America. She came back overwhelmed and said there was no way we could make money exporting goods. Her sister is to explain it to me some day soon.
We talked about other businesses we could start there. One day I suggest that we start and internet dating agency with English classes as a part of the agency. Man, I opened up a can of worms with that one. She didn't like that idea at all. Why? I would be around other single women and tempted to cheat on her. We spent three full conversations on that one subject. I tried to explain that she did not need to worry that I had better self control than that. Te subject ended when I said, OK we will not open an agency and I will not mention it again. She is happy now.
Jealousy
This does cause me concern. I am not sure what to make out of this. She told me that if I teach English that she wants to be at every class. I asked her was it because she wanted to learn English very well or was it because she wanted to keep me from the single women? She only said yes. Then one day she said that when we got married that she wanted to control the finances and she would not tell me if we were rich or poor. I asked why? She said that when men get rich they cheat on wifes and drink too much and leave them and marry younger women.
At first I was angry because she does not trust me. Then I thought that in reality that she has been done wrong by men and is trying to prevent that from happening again so I gave her an analogy. I said, "not all men are like your ex husband, not all men cheat on their wife. I told her that my wife managed all of our finances for 27 years and I was shocked when she turned over the books to me. She spent all of the money we received and then some. She paid late fees on about everything payment we had. She left me with no money and all of the bills two months behind. From this I could say that I should not trust any woman with the finances of the family because they spend all of our money." That was not word for word but I am too lazy to go back and look for the actual words.
Yesterday a regular female customer came into my store. She had not been there in about six months and when she walked in I almost didn't recognize her. She had lost 60lbs and men she was looking real good to me. She is beautiful for a woman her age. 52. She told me that she was going through a horrible divorce. She asked me where all of my jewelry was that I sold and I told her it went with my divorce. She began to open up and talk about her divorce, she really cried; heavy sobs. I stood up from my chair, in the store and put both of my arms around her and held her tight. She absolutely broke down and dried for about 10 minutes it seamed. She got makeup all over my shirt. I tell you what. I am still fully functional. The putter did rise to the occasion so I twisted around a little so would not detect it.
When she stopped crying I gave her a few more kleenex. She apologized, I told her she didn't have to, she said, "I hope you do not get the wrong idea, I am not ready for another man." I said, "I didn't think you were and anyway I am not on the market either, I thought you needed a friend to hug you, thats all." If I told Peggy or she saw that she would go ballistic I think. My ex wife would not have had a problem with that, she knew I would not cheat on her. Of course I would have not hugged her for 10 minutes either. I do hug women all the time but it is a brief hug.
I will have to continue this later. I though about making this one a cliff hanger, there was the perfect place up one paragraph, butttttttt.... I will leave that to Scott and Ron. I have not checked the grammar and left any hanging participles. I will make correction as needed later. I need to head out into the wet and cold environment to open the store now. I thought I lived in Georgia not North Dakota. :icon_cheesygrin:
