When You know it is just right

[RobertBfrom aust]

Shaun , lesson learned , never, but never create doubt in a Chinese ladies mind , and if Peggy has a translating software on her Yahoo do not try and confuse your discussions , use simple sentences and let her translate any words that she does not understand , if you have her phone number try buying a phone card costs very little to phone her from your landline and no dropouts , regards Ying and Robert .

[shaun]

Sorry about that.  This wasn't for suspense I just had to sleep.

Peggy was sure I was talking with a girl so I said. "Do you want me to turn web cam around so you can see my screen?"  She said, "Yes."  So I told Mike and then turned cam.  He waved at her.  Peggy said "Sorry."  I said bye to Mike and then asked Peggy to turn on her web cam.  She did.  What I didn't know was that not only was Peggy there but her sister and brother in-law from Utah and her mother were there too looking at me on screen talking and laughing with Mike.  They all thought I was talking to another woman.  I felt horrible.  I knew Peggy was loosing face with her family big time.  Her sister got on and talked with me a little.  Her English is very good.  So much so I had to answer several questions. Then she finally said, "You are a good man, good enough for my sister."  Whew!  She also said that I am all Peggy talks about and that she has never seen Peggy this excited about a man.  She said Peggy really loves you.  Then she said to forget about what happened.

Her husband got on the computer and said 2 things.  First was good save.  Then he said, "Marry this woman.  You will be a lucky man and will never regret it.  She is a very good woman."  Then they left and Peggy and I talked for another hour.

Guys, be careful when you web cam and if you do something that appears wrong show her immediately.  Apologize Apologize Apologize even though you did nothing wrong.  Just be smart about what you are doing to avoid causing doubt.

Good luck all.

Shaun

[JimB]

One of my first lady friends, saw me typing then when I quit for a second then started again she thought I was also talking with another woman of course this one was so jealous that i had to get rid of her.  However, it just goes to show to be careful.  Shaun is correct.

Good going Shaun.

[Arnold]

Shaun , you know how to make a Man sweat ! Wow .. glad you pulled yourself out of that one in one piece .

[David5o]

Shaun....

Just as well you don't have a laptop with built in cam, .... you would have been well and truly stumped then mate ...hahaha!! ... Well not really, you could have tried bringing her in to a conference call between you Mike and Peggy...lol!!

Well saved anyway...as the brother-in-law said!! ..lol!

David......

[JimB]

By the way, Beijing is a lot more expensive to live in.

[shaun]

Shaun....

Just as well you don't have a laptop with built in cam, .... you would have been well and truly stumped then mate ...hahaha!! ... Well not really, you could have tried bringing her in to a conference call between you Mike and Peggy...lol!!

Well saved anyway...as the brother-in-law said!! ..lol!

David......

David,

Until last night I was really mad that my laptop didn't have a built in one.  I have to fumble with the external a lot but it was worth the money last night. She keeps wanting me to show her different rooms in the house.  I tell her that I am selling it to get a smaller place.  4 bedroom with 1850 sqft is to much for one person. I show her a couple of rooms this morning and she said I am untidy and need a wife.  :icon_cheesygrin: I think she would have said that no matter how the house looked.

Shaun

By the way, Beijing is a lot more expensive to live in.

Thanks Jim.  I am into water so I think I would rather live near the ocean and she wants to stay in Shenzhen. I am about saving money too. I still have to sort that out in my mind. I will have enough Social Security income but I am 54 and would have to wait until I am 62 1/2.  I am not really sure I want to stay there either.  Hmmmmm........

Shaun

[JimB]

Thanks Jim. I am into water so I think I would rather live near the ocean and she wants to stay in Shenzhen. I am about saving money too. I still have to sort that out in my mind. I will have enough Social Security income but I am 54 and would have to wait until I am 62 1/2. I am not really sure I want to stay there either. Hmmmmm........

I would dearly suggest you go and stay for a while before making the decision to move.  A couple of guys have done it and so far it is working for them.  But, I could not go there and live for a long time.  Qingqing was onto me last night about that.  She of course wants to stay in China. With mama and me.  if we move here and she stays she loses her meal ticket, that is why she wants me to move there.  I did tell Mrs. Burk that we would live part time in China, probably in Wuhan near her relatives. but that is for a short period of time, no more than 3 months a year.

[Arnold]

Jim , that feels more than fair to me . After all , did your Wife not look for a foreign Husband in the first place . So this can not come as a surprise to anyone , including Qingqing . Meal ticket's are excepted all around the world the same ... are they not ? :icon_cheesygrin:

[shaun]

Thanks Jim. I am into water so I think I would rather live near the ocean and she wants to stay in Shenzhen.

I would dearly suggest you go and stay for a while before making the decision to move.  A couple of guys have done it and so far it is working for them.  But, I could not go there and live for a long time.  Qingqing was onto me last night about that.  She of course wants to stay in China. With mama and me.  if we move here and she stays she loses her meal ticket, that is why she wants me to move there.  I did tell Mrs. Burk that we would live part time in China, probably in Wuhan near her relatives. but that is for a short period of time, no more than 3 months a year.

Jim,

You are right in what you say about testing it first.  I am watching to see how the others do as I have watched your postings about your stay. I am apprehensive to say the least.  With the economy the way it is I feel I am spinning my wheels and may slowly be losing ground with my store. One idea I am considering is spending a year there while waiting for a visa and develop an export business to the US. I already have interested customers in the US and a trusted friend to handle the this side while I am there.

I am looking at all issues and would covet any observations you or others might have.

Arnold your input was meant for Jim but helpful to me too.

Thanks,

Shaun

[RobertBfrom aust]

Shaun , procrastinating will not help , every one who goes to the Middle Kingdom has their eyes opened , whether they be from any country or a regular traveler to other countries , the openness of the country and its people make a farce of what we assume , so check out for when you can go look ,book your flight , etc , and then make your own decisions based upon your then knowledge , you have jumped well past any lead up fluff , just as Ying and I did , and you also have the added advantage of family members that are USA based , so work out your holidays and go , the early bird catches the worms , others are left to starve , regards Ying and Robert .

[maxx]

So Shaun I agree with Robert.What are you waiting for?Does the invitation need to be engraved?

[Willy The Londoner]

One more brother in Guangdong will be great.  

Willy

[shaun]

Guys,

There are two issues that hold me back from going right now.  One I cannot talk about yet and the other is finances.  And the finances are influenced by the other issue.  Today I passed by a loan company and I sat there staring at it for a few minutes. If only. I thought about borrowing the money and once the other issues were settled pay it off but I really hate to do it.  I can't believe that I am actually considering selling my boat and my coveted 1971 Volkswagen Super Bettle that I am restoring just to go.  These are two of my most prized possessions. But we are talking about love for a lifetime. I must act soon and I know it. I would say you have no idea how this woman is but I bet you do Maxx, Arnold, Willy and the others who have seen and settled.

I am putting a for sale sign on my store tomorrow with a high price tag to test the waters a little. It will be interesting to see what happens.

But I am hearing all of you and I do not disagree.  Willy, if I wind up moving there you would be within the top 10 of people I would want to meet right away.  Peggy of course is first then her mother and family.  I would sell my stock in Viagra but with Rob just moving there I would miss great financial opportunity.  :icon_cheesygrin: But truthfully it would be an honor to meet you and hang out a little, well for me a lot but I do not want to brag. :icon_cheesygrin:

Guys all I can say is keep on pushing me because I have been know to talk myself out of things I should have gone for.

Shaun

[Scottish_Rob]

Guys,

There are two issues that hold me back from going right now.  One I cannot talk about yet and the other is finances.  And the finances are influenced by the other issue.  Today I passed by a loan company and I sat there staring at it for a few minutes. If only. I thought about borrowing the money and once the other issues were settled pay it off but I really hate to do it.  I can't believe that I am actually considering selling my boat and my coveted 1971 Volkswagen Super Bettle that I am restoring just to go.  These are two of my most prized possessions. But we are talking about love for a lifetime. I must act soon and I know it. I would say you have no idea how this woman is but I bet you do Maxx, Arnold, Willy and the others who have seen and settled.

I am putting a for sale sign on my store tomorrow with a high price tag to test the waters a little. It will be interesting to see what happens.

But I am hearing all of you and I do not disagree.  Willy, if I wind up moving there you would be within the top 10 of people I would want to meet right away.  Peggy of course is first then her mother and family.  I would sell my stock in Viagra but with Rob just moving there I would miss great financial opportunity.  :icon_cheesygrin: But truthfully it would be an honor to meet you and hang out a little, well for me a lot but I do not want to brag. :icon_cheesygrin:

Guys all I can say is keep on pushing me because I have been know to talk myself out of things I should have gone for.

Shaun

Shaun
To be perfectly honest with you...And I am only saying this a s a brother...Only you can decide what's right for you!!!

However, I know this may not apply, BUT I came I saw and hopefully I will conquer.:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin::icon  This to me was a life changing decision, (you know my sorry tale).:@  There is one thing I will say...I WOULD NOT CHANGE MY MIND NOW, I LOVE IT HERE and I have only been here nearly a week now.  I JUST hope nothing goes wrong!!!  It was the best decision I have ever made...BUT that's ME:icon_biggrin: