When You know it is just right

[shaun]

Rocky,

I tried to talk to her about an agency once.  Man you talking about opening up a can of worms.  I do have some ideas on how to make a good one.  I learned how little trust she had for men right now.  The next three conversations were about this one issue.  Finally we came to an understanding.  She would trust me as long as I never mentioned starting an agency again.  She got burned by her husband pretty bad and it is something she is working on.  But Rocky, you are on the money with the idea.  It will take a little time though.

[shaun]

I have been talking with Peggy for 4 1/2 hours.  She said the following; "I believe that people will say that we are a good ten feet a pair of women's"

Does anyone know what this means?

[mustfocus]

Is that the original text?  Or did she write something in chinese?  If you have the chinese, I think we can translate it better.

[RobertBfrom aust]

That is simple Shaun , ha ha , what Peggy has said is "I believe people will say we are a good couple " ie;two feet is a couple ,ie;pair of women's is a couple , one has to think outside the square , regards Ying and Robert .

[shaun]

Robert I see what you are saying but I do not understand the parallel. It is 10 feet and pair of women.  Is it a saying in China?

I would have asked her this evening but she had to go.

[rockycoon]

Perhaps it means that she has a large shoe size...haha or you do...
I think it means you both walk the same path in the same shoes...but hey I haven't got a clue why 10 feet. It means I think, that you both think the same....that works don't it?

[shaun]

She tried to explain it and Robert came the closest with, "I believe people will say we are a good couple."

I still can't connect the 10 feet and pair of women. :huh::huh::huh:

Shaun

[RobertBfrom aust]

Shaun , ten feet is 2 feet , regards Robert .

[rockycoon]

If you explain that all us men need an honest agency we can rely on, and are willing to spend lots of money just for that honesty, and the fact that lots of us have been burned before also. Perhaps if you mention that this is a job you both can run together?  That may help. I don't know why one would turn down a business prospect that would turn over money like that, after reading on here the amount of money these customers and ladys put out just to use the system. That's one hell of a money maker over there!

[shaun]

Rocky,   It will depend on where Peggy's head is at when I get there.  I think maybe she has suffered some abuse from her ex husband.  I may get the whole story, I may not but the first thing is that I will have to build some trust in her.

[shaun]

I think over the last few days Peggy and I have got some break though in our relationship.

I think there may still be a few trust issues. We have talked all around her daughters issues without her really telling me what the issues were. I have always respected that boundary and have never pried to find out.

Last night she asked me what I thought and to confirm her decision with an issue regarding her daughter.  I said I would listen to her but I would need to know more about her daughters issues. I didn't want to push her but I felt I needed to know at least some of it if I as going to confirm her decision.  She told everything. There was no pushing at all from me.

When she finished I had two different feelings.  1.  I wanted to laugh (I did not) because in my estimation I have been more difficult to her than her daughter's difficulties. The funny things is that the issues are not bad at all and relates to real life.  2. I was humbled that Peggy would share with me in such detail.  What did I say to her?  I confirmed her decision 100%.  It was kind of awkward because her decision was to not help her daughter but to continue to spend time talking with me until I can get there and stay with me after I got there.  I told her that the two of us might be able to help on a limited bases after I got there.  Peggy was excited about my response.

This morning was a special kind of for us.  I am having difficulty trying to explain this without saying more than I want to.  I am sure that we all have concerns and doubts about the physical side of the relationship. I am the same. Peggy has always been reserved in talking about this aspect.  Today she was a little braver with her talk. So much so that she embarrassed herself and turned her camera off for about 10-15 minutes.  I wont tell you what she said but on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being pornographic it was about a 3.  It was enough to let me know that there are desires and passion there.  That is all I need to know.

Well of course you know she now has my whole attention at this point.  She was so cute... I was drawn so close to her at that moment...  Man, I have tried not to but I have fallen so much for her...  But rather than going completely into the gutter it gave me the opportunity to talk with her openly and speak candidly about how we both feel as grown adults who have experienced marriage and children.  I reassured her that I had nothing but the utmost respect for her. This has opened up more of a trust with her because I could have had a lot of fun with what she said.  

Many of you know that if you open the door for me to make a funny joke I will jump in with both feet. I told her that I would not do that because I valued her feelings and opinions.

I can't wait to go to SZ.

Shaun

[shaun]

The relationship between Peggy and I has grown to the point that I need to take that next big step and go there.  Many of you would say I hit that point a month or two ago.  Many loose ends have prevented me from going and I still have a lot to do. But I know I need to go... soon.

My store is not attracting any purchasers except the charlatans of this world.  I may have to cut my losses and liquidate.

I am trying to go to China before the Chinese Spring Festival. Don't know if it will happen but I am trying. I still do not have my passport yet. !$&*(#$^_(*@&$

Peggy was not sure if I would come or not because I say "if." This led to, "there is no commitment" in a conversation we had recently.  I understand her feeling.  So I have wondered, how do I show her I am committed to this relationship?

One of the reoccurring themes in our talks is Peggy saying, "You do not come to China because my English is terrible... You will not marry me because my English is terrible... You will find another woman because my English is terrible..." Sometimes it gets to me but I do have to admit hearing her say, "my English is terrible," is quite fun to listen too.  She is so cute how she says it.  It still gets to me because we have to re-hash every now and then.  I do understand why she feels this way, so I let it go.

Peggy and I have been discussing what to do and where we will live when I get there.  e make a decision and everyone is happy.  Little sister gets rent for her home in Shenzshen. Nice 1 bedroom loft. 1500RMB  $225.00USD

I was concerned as to what she will do until I get there because she is not working and does not go out much.  I get this bright idea that she can take English lessons until I arrive.  "Oh too much money," she says.  I decide I will pay for the English lessons.  $150.00USD for 2 months and it will get her out of the house.  It will also show commitment from me. Peggy cannot accept and Little Sister and I tell her, "Yes you will."  I tell her that it is an investment into our future and a couple and in our business.  She accepts.

I ask her to open a Paypal account since they are in China. She does.  This morning her account was verified so I tried to send her money.  Well, China does not accept foreign currency from Paypal.   #*()_^&*)(_#$$  

I hope to work this one out.  If any of you have any ideas or have managed to get this to work your info would be appreciated.

Shaun

[RobertBfrom aust]

Should be simple Shaun, send the money in Yuan , but how do you collect it at the other end Paypal is not a bank ? I bet her sister and brotherinlaw have some way of sending money , could you not forward to them to deliver if they are back in the states , regards Ying and Robert .

[shaun]

Robert,

You would think, but Paypal it appears does not convert to Yuan.  I think someone on this site has done it but I cannot remember who or on what thread.

I hope to talk with Peggy a little later since I cannot see what she does in China.  I can see it, I just can't read it. It would take forever with google.

Sister and brother-in-law should be able to help but Peggy leans on them too much already (my opinion) and I am trying to get her to chart her own territory.  They will be gone in 16 days and we need to have our own means.  But all good ideas.  I may have to fall back on it but want to exhaust all options first.

Shaun

[Rhonald]

Shaun I have been using Moneygram to send money to my wife. Costs $10 Canadian each time I send. There are many branches in Shenzhen for Peggy to go to to get the money. She just needs to bring ID. www.moneygram.com

I always send as US dollars and Yan gets it in RMB at the other end. The moneygram branches in China are all located in banks.