Wow this thread is suddenly becoming popular! Alll the better for me, more brains to pick, thanks so much for you input all of you!
Tuesday morning update:
Honestly I don't know what to do, but I feel a lot better than during my previous posts. She came back from work early yesterday (first time she's that early) and probably knew something was fishy. She apologized saying that she acted like a bitch (quoting), and even though she was still feeling sick, she spent the evening and night with me and showed much affection the whole time ... then this morning a lot of cuddles and everything else until she left for work again, now we're QQ'ing happily. I notice that she needs closer contact again, wants to stay in touch all the time.
So maybe this is an age thing, maybe she is still trying to make up her mind, maybe she has the jitters, maybe she is a bit bitchy, maybe she doesn't know what love is about ... hard to say. I did spend an unexpectedly nice evening with her yesterday, now I am undecided again about what to do fundamentally speaking, but short term I will give this a chance, let it flow and see what happens. I have more distance to this now and think I can use my instincts and rationale again. As Vince said, she might be more girl friend material, in any case, she will have to prove to me that she can be more as I do have my doubts now.
One thing I have learned is to play differently, while I took some of the little girl behavior with a smile before, I now get back at her immediately and make sure she knows it's not appropriate, usually in a playful way.
Jeff, the shopping spree was really not one, she doesn't let me spend on her, I have no worries there. She's not an only child but the eldest of 3, so more responsibility than her siblings it would seem.
About loving more than being loved, hehe I have a funny impression all of the sudden. Since cooling off over the last few days, my communication with her obviously cooled off too, no more I love you's etc, a lot less flowery. Well all I can say is that she misses it and is compensating by giving me more. Maybe this is just a different way of showing love and affection. My Chinese ex was a bit the same the first month or two, kissing not so comfortable, really anything else than holding hands was awkward to begin with. But after a couple of months this all normalized and we had a great relationship, she really needed to learn, and her future lover will certainly be happy with her training
As for me, I guess is wait and see and don't give up. Maybe I should go back to the initial motto: Expect nothing and be prepared for everything.
More when there is more to tell! Thanks all again for your support!
Frank