Unless something happens very suddenly once again, I will be making my trip to Zhanjiang on December 27 according to plan.
Hans
I think you're doing the right thing. If your air tickets are non-refundable, then it would seem to be a crying shame to throw all this money away. Once you have paid for the tickets, it is possible to do everything else (accommodation, eating, getting around, etc) very cheaply.
In my humble opinion, I think there is no way of knowing whether it's going to work out. Some things suggest it's going to work out, and other things, suggest that there are a real problems in the relationship.
So I think what you're doing is best. You go, looking forward to seeing her and spending some time with her. If it works out, great. But if not, then you just need to flow along with that too.
Have a think about what you might do if it doesn't work out.
When I heard someone here suggest that it is worthwhile thinking through what you're going to do if it doesn't work out, I thought to myself that this sounded really cold and heartless. So the first time I went to China, I had given no thought at all to the possibility of it not working out. When it didn't work out I remember lying in my hotel room in the dark for a few days in Macau, during the Chinese New Year Festival. God they were a hard few days. It seems like the end of the world at the time, but it isn't, and life goes on, and you're sadder but wiser.
Danny
