Martin sometimes life can be bloody cruel , sometimes you hear things you do not want to hear , my be you did not like what I had to say ?
but when you look back what are relationships built on martin ?
communication and understanding
I do not know the way your feeling ,but think it feels bad
From the hint you gave us was communication
sometimes when you travel the unproven path that all of us choose in this forum ,
the emotions that we go through leaving our women at the airport and all that
when we eventually get to the end of the road the sun shines so brightly
yes we have made it . but wait on a minute !!!!!
sometimes we can take our foot of the peddle thinking the hard work is done
nooooooooo it is just starting , this is when communication needs to be stepped up
and also to understand your wife's feelings
a strange country , different culture , everything is out of your wife's comfort zone ,
my be break down in communication is through maybe your wife not settling in your country , that can cause as break down in understanding and communication
sometimes it can happen we do not see it coming
if this is part of the reason for your relationship with your wife to breakdown
maybe you can save it
maybe you can move to china maybe things will be better ?
one thing is for certain martin
sometimes marrying a Chinese women and taking her home to your country does not work out,sometimes many people take this for granted who knows
only time will tell martin .
how ever I wish you well in what you choose it does seem sad that after all you have been through just to throw it away seems senseless to me
but it good advice martin COMMUNICATION AND UNDERSTANDING is important in any relationship especially with a Chinese women with the different culture
Rhonald as for this situation with my wife's son my wife as moved very quickly to nip this in the bud my wife as sent a strong message to her son , she is now moving to my country
and as told him in no uncertain terms that I come first in her life
so he now as to stand up for himself and grow up , we hope in time he will accept me
as a foot note to this post when I was in Chengdu for my wedding in the
spring festival, I met up with one of my wife's friends she is married to a Canadian
I asked her if she liked Canada as she spoke good English her response was
I hate Canada but I love my husband and that is were we will live
gives you food for thought (as for me I think Canada is a cool place )
anyway Martin good luck
