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Offline Jay W

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Navigating a sensitive issue...
« on: May 12, 2009, 03:25:56 am »
My lady recently informed me that her father had a stroke recurrence.  She told me that due to this, her posts would be a bit more infrequent.  I told her that I understood, and that her first priority was to her family.  The timing couldn't of been worse since I just sent her a birthday gift before that post.  I had to ask her for her phone number in the next post to ensure delivery of my gift.

Has anyone her run into a situation like this?  Any advice?  I feel adrift.  We were making real sincere progress in our communication with each other.  I don't want to be a burden, at most a far away cheerleader...:cool:

I don't think I can do much except demonstrate my patience and give my support.

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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2009, 03:43:31 am »
My girl's best friend had to go to the hospital and she told me she might not write for a few days.  I sent her an encouraging letter and told her how proud I was of her taking care of her friend.  Sent my best wishes etc.  Boy, she really appreciated that, I think it really helped our relationship a lot.
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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2009, 04:43:57 am »
Jay , words of encouragement will mean more than you realize , as not only is family No.1 there hospital system is such that the family does a lot more for the well being of the patient than in a Western hospital , send a fruit basket over for her to take to him from both of you and you will win 2 with 1 basket , regards Robert .
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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2009, 07:42:18 am »
Jay, that's right, be patient and supportive. That's the right thing to do.

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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2009, 09:10:14 am »
Yep, what they said.
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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #5 on: May 17, 2009, 10:58:48 am »
Jay now is your time to shine by showing support as well as patience. Sounds like you already know what to do.
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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #6 on: May 18, 2009, 02:24:11 pm »
Well I chose give it a set period of time..
By which I assumed meant if its still the same maybe two or three months later..well maybe time to move on.
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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #7 on: May 18, 2009, 03:07:15 pm »
Jay, stick with it, be patient and supportive. I believe you will be rewarded in a fantastic way!
爱你的人如果没有按你所希望的方式来爱你,那并不代表他们没有全心全意地爱你。
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

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RE: Navigating a sensitive issue...
« Reply #8 on: May 19, 2009, 08:56:47 pm »
Yes I agree... be supportive of her.  This is life and couples will have troubled times and good times.
Supporting her and showing her how much you care can only bring you both closer.  Good luck in your relationship!:heart:

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