Brian,
Yes, i totally agree, we will definitely have to agree to disagree. As i said we are all different, and we will always do what we think is best for us. You may not of actually stated you were in love or the like, but you did "imply" that you very well might do. As for me being in my little corner, not knowing much about this world. I'm afraid that doesn't hold water. I've lived and worked in more countries in this world than i can count on two hands Brian. In fact I've spent more time overseas than i have in the UK.
Yes, arranged marriages were and still are common in certain parts of the world, sure some are going to find love, the law of logic and percentages dictate that is going to be the case. But how many of them were, or are happy and fulfilling marriages? I can't tell you how many, not so good arranged marriages I've come across in my travels, but more than enough to prove to me, that there not, and never have been the answer.
I can't see where i said that romantics, don't stand any chance Brian, sure they do. But there is still a need to use common sense in being a romantic guy, ....jumping in with both feet, without it, doesn't make you a romantic, it makes you something quite different.
Yes Brian, ...it is, and always has been better, to be in a normal face to face relationship / courtship. Apart from being aware of the commonalities, you are also aware of the differences between you both. More importantly, you have the interaction of body language between you. No I'm not talking Sex and jumping into bed. I'm talking about reading peoples facial expressions, and how the body reacts to words and actions. It's always the little personal things, that can tell you more about that person, than any amount of writing can ever achieve....
Brian i could write pages on body language, it was my compulsory choice of an unrelated subject during University. Boy, has that course paid dividends for me, over the course of my working and private life!!
On the divorce thing you mentioned, and going by the accepted statistics, of 1 in 3 marriages ending in divorce, i would have to say ...more than you would imagine. I myself had 20 yrs of a, (for me) perfect marriage before she passed away. I haven't personally known the hurt of going through a divorce, but know plenty that have. Yes it is as you say, a great pandemic across the world, even more reason to do your damnedest, to do all that you can, so that it doesn't happen to you. ...Right??
Brian, yes I've read plenty of the profiles on chnlove, I'm also aware, that some are not as wonderful as they might first seem to be, also.
I agree that those over 30/35 and or with a child, don't have much of a future in finding a Chinese husband. But please don't think that these ladies are all perfect, there not.
It's just as hard to find a good Chinese wife as it is anywhere else, hence my point of using your common sense and wisdom, in these matters. Don't get me wrong Brian, when you do find a good Chinese woman, it's like finding a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, that's for sure!!
Now, are you saying, that's not worth waiting, a little longer for ??
I don't come on here to ridicule or slight, my posts on this matter are always to try and give awareness that things are not always as rosy as they might seem to be. I have nothing what-so-ever against anyone being a Romantic in there outlook here. ....But everyone of us needs to use there common sense too, along with what they have learnt along the way in their life. Some just need to stand back a little, ...maybe there racing, before they can walk!! Love maybe all around us, but then so is the real world, which makes it just a little more difficult to find that love....
David.....
