Hi everyone,
Please forgive me it this info has been discussed and posted somewhere as this is a pretty basic question.
I have been a member here since inception. I have written to chnlove women before but never actually met one due to other personal circumstances.
Now I am writing to a few and will definitely see them. I wonder how you guys proceed once contact is established.
Chnlove says we are not allowed to ask or exchange for contact information except they seem to allow the woman to give you her e-mail. Some people say it is not really her e-mail, but I think it is.
Anyways, I can buy her contact information (with her permission of course). But often it does not have a telephone number. This means I have to write snail mail and hope I get her phone number before I go. The turnaround time too long and I go in 5 weeks. If you have her private e-mail or QQ number you could ask for the phone number. This information is vital to meeting her.
The other thing is I could ask the agency for their phone number so when I arrive they can meet met and get me a hotel or apartment. From reading these posts the agency can either be a great help or a money grabber so I am leery of them. But if you have no other choice, do I ask my lady friend to give me the agency phone number or can I ask them directly? How do I ask the agency? Do I ask the customer care of chnlove to give it to me?
I am going there iin March and I just started writing to a few women since the New Year. The women are spread all over but I hope to filter it down to 2 or 3 to visit.
Help or advice appreciated.
Don
Don
I have done it 6 times via Agencies and been horribly disappointed with the results.
It is so difficult to take all the time, trouble and costs of going to meet someone when the only contact you have is through EMF's with a translator in the middle. I know that one or two Bros here have done it that way with success, but the majority of guys going to China try very hard to eastablish some level of personal contact first....you ,might like to check out Abigbutt's post's regarding this.
For all the right reasons, it is best to get on to QQ or some such similar personal face-to-face electronic media...then you know who you are actually talking to !!!
The email address you will get from the Agency is NOT a personal address, it is an Agency dedicated number given to the Lady on registration.
You will also see from the many, many posts on the subject that Chinese ladies regard with great suspicion, any Man who goes to visit them and several others...so I fully agree with Ted on this one......better to take the time to find one Lady who you think may be the best for you and take it from there. You can always go to the Agency and arrange other meetings if it all goes pear shaped (Plan B)
Since I learned all the traps from the Bros here, I have gone down a different track with No 7, and I have already established QQ contact and have been chatting for 6 weeks now...what a difference, it makes life so much easier and makes the whole task much less daunting. I can get to know the REAL person so much easier.
You will doubtless meet some resistance from the Agency when you push for QQ contact...but persevere...in the end they have to give way or risk losing a client !!!
As for Hotels, when you get more comfortable with the Lady of your choice, on QQ or similar, ask her to suggest a Hotel, or even arrange a booking for you.....I would not let the Agency do this.
Again I say, some Bros have had real sucess with letting the Agency do the whole thing and having their whole relationship via EMF prior to meeting.....but it is a rarity.
Lastly...dont go over there filled with unrealistic expectations of love and marriage....softly, softly catchee mousee.:icon_cheesygrin::icon_cheesygrin:
Keep optimistic and have an open mind and heart and you will have a wonderful experience in this amazing Country, whatever the outcome may be,
DavidE