Hi Dave.
I guess as others say, it does depend on how many emf's you are sending, if it is one everyday ie, one day you send the next she replies then i would say four weeks of communicating you should be getting direct contact by now or soon, but reasons for her not wanting the direct contact could be her English skills, how good are they? Also, the problem with emf's is you do not know if the translator is telling her you want the direct contact, they could be leaving that part out of the translation to her to get more emf credits out of you. (i'm not saying this is the case here, but you never know...) Maybe try leaving a note at the end of your emf to your translator saying you would like to get closer to your lady and do they have any advice for you. Things i have tried in the past is saying you still want to use the emf system for the majority of your mails but you would like to send her more than three pictures at a time, or you want to send mp3 files of music that you like to her and does she have a direct email you can send them too? (include your email address too, saying she can do the same) Suggest you have a QQ or msn account (include yours in the message) And would she like to chat with you at a time that is convenient to you both? (again phrase it in a way like you want to see her beautiful smile when you chat to her, and think this is a way that the two of you will feel closer to each other, but do not try to sound like you are pressurising her, or she may feel as you are backing her into a corner, which she will then certainly decline your offer...)
Even if she has no access to a computer. (even if she does not have one, some girls don't like to use the internet cafes as they may not feel safe there) She will most definitely have a cell phone. Maybe you could give her your number first, and see if she offers you hers, so you could ring her or send texts. (But be aware that some mobiles in China are not able to send texts or call internationally) So if she does say that, do not see it as a red flag, but she will be able to receive calls from you. But if you like this girl, i would still give it another month of emf's and then try for the direct contact again, if she still refuses, maybe you should then think about moving on, but this is really up to you as only you can know how far your are into this relationship...
Andy...