Lee,
I quite agree, it should have nothing to do with anyone, including, and especially her Mum!! Just saying No, is also a respectable answer...lol!!!
Basically, i was just having a bit of fun with you, Turning the dishonour thing around to mean the complete opposite. lol!!...
Ted,
I think your talking about how it was 20+ years ago. I'm sure there are some that still hold that view, but from my experience in China, those days are long gone... China has visibly changed out of all recognition in all manner things and thinking, ... even from when i first arrived in China. Just think about it, 20 years ago and Beijing was like a ghost town after midnight!!! ....Now it's a living breathing dynamic City, that buzzes and pulses 24 hours a day...
David.....