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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #45 on: February 12, 2010, 06:16:40 pm »
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Frank,
so i woke you up? no wonder i didnt understand a word you said


Just wondering what language did he speak when you woke him?

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #46 on: February 12, 2010, 08:39:02 pm »
Frank , I wonder if your Lady is the long lost Sister of my Wife ? The way things repeat themselves is amazing . Now all we need , is some Photo to verify this .:icon_cheesygrin:

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #47 on: February 13, 2010, 02:59:57 pm »
Yeah Ted, was I speaking Chinglish? SOrry about the bananas ...

I keep forgetting my camera but I still have 7 days with my sweetheart so we'll see ...

Happy New Year to you all! Mine is already happy, there have been some new developments in the last 12 hours ...

First of all I would like to do Zhanjiang justice, n the morning it is fairly clean, I guess the cleaning squads operate during the night and my first impression of the town was in the evening. We did a bit of walking, the roads are nicely planted with palm trees in vast numbers, it's funny though that you walk under coconut trees, I wonder how it feels when one of them decides to land on your head. I spotted some military ships and learned that Zhanjiang is the second largest naval base in China after the one in Shandong, all the same it is quite sweet and must be a nice place to live.

My baby called me just a minute after I woke up around 9:30, remember what I said about her timing? We seem to be perfectly synced. The plan is to meet up in a little while but I tell her to spend some time with her dad and rest of the family if she wants to, after all she does not see them that often. I'm not hungry but dying for coffee and there is none to be had in the hotel so I walk about and get one in KFC, horrible coffee but better than nothing I guess, I'll try Macdowlow next time since I have one right next to me, actually everything is right next to me, my hotel is in the largest central street of Zhanjiang.

Tomorrow is Valentine's day and I wanted to get her something, I think I have reached the conclusion that she is the one, so it should be something nice. There is a jewelry shop in one of the malls and I start examining necklaces and pendants as Brother's friend's wife walks in with their 4 year old son, he says "hello uncle", and his mom, explains she is sorry not to be able to spend the morning with me because she is busy, but still hangs around and "helps" me choosing a heart shaped pendant and a necklace in white gold for my Valentine. Obviously she sees the price ... I hope she won't tell on me, actually I'm sure she will :D. I draw enough cash to pay for the gift and get it nicely packed, the shop assistants are super friendly and put together something really nice. Remember the timing? Just as I leave the shop I get an SMS from my sweetheart saying she's in the lobby, about 200m away, I tell her to come and meet me half way which we do about 2 minutes later, but she is not alone, brother is with her as well as her half sister, a lovely girl just finishing her tourism major in college and she has excellent English, no wonder as daddy was an English teacher and apparently forced her to learn English with military discipline. We take a bus to go to lunch, there are only few taxis on duty and the car is being used by brother's best friend to run some errands. Food is excellent as always, we enjoy it in a Western style coffee shop and have a lot of fun conversing. My sweetheart gets a little left out because most of it is in English and she has the least of it, but she is patient and doesn't seem to mind. They all teach me Chinese all the time, it's like a family project, I feel so bad when I can't remember certain things  but they are all very patient. As the ladies go to powder their noses at the end of the meal, brother speaks a serious word with me. He told his father I was a customer/business friend but says the story will not hold up because of all the sparks flying between me and his sister, so he wants to discuss this with me and her and devise a strategy. Miraculously we manage to get a cab, pick up my laundry (hurray !!) and go to a hairdresser for the ladies, except that they are busy and have tripled their prices so we cancel that idea, the ladies will dress their hair themselves and brother and me go get his car which is available again. I get introduced to another friend as this happens, super friendly again, these people are so nice it's almost unreal. I change into something fresh in the hotel and when I come down, brother's friend, wife and son are in the car and we go to buy New Year fruit for 3 families, basically a boot full of boxes, mainly apples and oranges in luxury packaging special for the festivities. In the car, brother's friend's wife takes my QQ number, I will practice her English with her, and she wants to introduce me to an English teacher who could teach me Chinese. We drop off the first load of fruit at the friend's mom's place who happens to walk by and says a friendly hello to me. When they return, the friend's wife hands me a package with food that her mother in law made herself and gave her for me ... they are so nice, my god this is getting overwhelming. We then drop off the friend's family and go close to dad's place and drink some iced tea waiting for my love to turn up to discuss our strategy for introductions to the family. Brother asks me how I feel and remarks that we seem very happy together. As he asks my eyes get cloudy because I realize how deep my feelings are for her, I sort of knew but his question prompted a clearing up in my mind, I have no doubts. I confirm and tell him that I was certain about her, and that I would not mind making it official if she agrees to this. She arrives a few minutes later. We have not really talked about our future together, so I don't officially know what she thinks although I know she loves me, but maybe this is a bit fast. It seems crazy for me but again, it feels right. He asks her how she feels about our relationship, doesn't tell her what I told him. She answers without hesitation that she is sure about us and brother tells me ... and then says that he is really happy for us and I know he means it, we have talked a lot the last few days and have started to know and appreciate each other, I think we will be great friends, in a way we already are. So we decide to introduce me as the official boy friend in view of marriage. Now that this is decided we head to dad's house for the official introduction.

Dad is not well unfortunately, he suffers badly from Parkinson's and can barely move or speak. Nevertheless I am greeted with a warm smile, he does not let go of my hand until eventually he invites me to sit down, in English! Brother does the introductions, I am nervous to be honest, dad never takes his eyes off me but keeps smiling and approves our relationship after a few minutes. His wife also greets me with a warm smile, she is an angel and has taken care of dad and his illness the last 20 years, family really means something here. With this accomplished, we load everybody in the car and go to New Year's dinner in a Hotel also frequented by Deng Xiaoping, and I am coached on how to act with the family, we will be a total of 15 at dinner, the head of the family being an 84 year old uncle who lives in Canada but is over every year for Spring Festival.

Dinner is in a private room with a humongous table and rotating glass platter. I say hello from far first, am invited to sit by the head of the family who hands out red envelopes to the younger and single family members. Once everyone is there, I am prompted to get up and greet everyone individually in the order of rank (age) which I do, with a big smile which is the polite thing to do. During the dinner, the uncle interrogates brother about me, he is concerned but seems to accept things in the end and smiles and invites me to take the first bite of the first dish, which I am told I should serve him to show respect, which I do of course, except that I fumble with the larger chopsticks ... which draws general laughter. Family discussions go in Zhanjiang dialect but I am surrounded by my English speaking team and they make sure I  am always included in the conversation. Half sister teaches me customs and tradition, we chat about this and that and the dinner is very enjoyable thanks to the excellent food and company. Of course I am being observed by everyone with great curiosity, but in a friendly way, and I get complimented on the use of my chopsticks, again everyone is really nice and slowly my nervousness fades.

The food is outrageously good and keeps coming, we ate fish, shrimp, sand-worm (delicious although scary), shark fin soup, abalone, marinated chicken, fish stomach, sea cucumber (delicious), a collection of vegetables dishes, French croissant, sweet rolls, some rice of course, and the meal finishes with a dessert, 3 white sweet balls in a sweet sauce, the roundness of the balls symbolizing family reunion and I am told that the fact that I am getting them means I am accepted in the family. My sweetheart, brother and half sister all serve me in turns, I almost never got a chance to serve myself. I notice that the hierarchy plays a role for the most exquisite foods, the younger women only eat one abalone, I get two and the elderly get three ... Uncle doesn't like smoke or alcohol it seems, we all drink tea and brother takes me out for a quick smoke but makes sure we are not gone more than 3 minutes, I guess that would be impolite. The dinner ends at 8pm and uncle pays between 4 and 5K RMB, and we exit the restaurant, a quick friendly goodbye is spoken, I thank uncle for the dinner and we are back in the car drop off dad and head into town. Brother leaves us to play mahjong and we go  to the hotel for a rest.

Around 11:30pm, I give my sweetheart her present and we go out to watch some fireworks. It sounds like Zhanjiang is at war, explosions and chain guns everywhere, we walk for about two hours and manage to have a good talk without the Besta, she is learning fast and still continues to teach me Chinese now and again. We discuss marriage and whether it would be reasonable to decide so fast, we agree that it's not reasonable but that it feels right, so I think to myself: what the heck? I ask her in Chinese, studied that one hard but it takes 4 or 5 tries before she understands :P She tells me she will consider it, but she is playing, I know the answer is yes... I guess I should have bought a ring instead of a necklace, but I will do that outside of China, I hope I can finalize by coming April, either she will come to me, or I will return to China yet again.

Our stroll ends at her dad's house and we say goodnight. I manage the 10 minute walk back to the hotel without getting lost and even find a shortcut, this is all becoming way to familiar and I am enjoying it a lot.

So I guess we're engaged, have family approval and are hopefully on the way to a bright future together. My fiancée is wonderful, her family is wonderful, I feel like the luckiest man in the world!

Frank
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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #48 on: February 13, 2010, 04:52:08 pm »
Awesome Frank...Congratulations my friend...:icon_biggrin:

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #49 on: February 13, 2010, 07:03:58 pm »
great story Frank, looking forword to meeting her on the 20th when we all have dinner
hold on to her as you found someone to put up with all your smoking  hahahahaha

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #50 on: February 13, 2010, 07:10:56 pm »
Hey Frank, congrats!  What a way to start the new year!
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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #51 on: February 14, 2010, 12:22:40 am »
You Da Man Frank.  Her mom must have told her about the neckless, or it was leaked (you know how mom and daughter are)  I am so
glad for you.  Time to shop for rings now.  Do you know her ring size?  You really can't ask her as she will catch on fast, better to ask
the brother.
WOW, you have a family now, guess it's going to be that spring travel to China every year.  Congradulations Frank !!!

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #52 on: February 14, 2010, 01:26:42 pm »
Hmm ring buying, I think I'll do that it the West, we'll go have a look at rings together so I get an idea what she likes, I'll figure out her size while we're doing that, I'm sure her brother has no clue and she doesn't seem to wear any rings.

Yes she puts up with my smoking, she even tasted a couple of drafts to see what it was like ... she is so easy going in all ways it's complete bliss. Now she is used to my gentleman behavior, she let's me open doors for her, help her put on her coat, serve her tea or other drinks. I love being a gentleman and well, things are different here so she had to learn to give me that space, but she loves it, the smiles I get are payback enough.

Remember the timing thing? This morning I woke up late, eventually crawled out of bed and into the shower, and just as I am getting dressed there is a knock on the door and there she is ... she says she brought me breakfast but it's a actually a gift for me beautifully wrapped by herself, we forgot to pick it up last night.

We walk down the main road here with the intention of getting some coffee but the crowds are unreal, the waiting lines ridiculous anywhere, so I skip coffee and we head to the jewelry shop to exchange the necklace I chose, it turns out I bought platinum instead of white gold, and she finds the necklace too fragile to sleep with it, so we get an exchange, and she sees the price so there is no secret to it anymore. I pay a little premium because there are some fractions of a gram more in the new choice, and she rechecks the amount to be sure what they charge is correct. Then we attempt to go to lunch but all places are completely overloaded, we end up buying KFC and eating it in the close-by hotel room. Then we're off to the seaside for a walk, I think we walked about 4 hours and I got a load of pictures of her, she is naturally good looking on photos, wow I am in awe :P We return to the hotel by motor trycicle and just as we stretch out our legs after the tiring walk, brother calls and wants to take us to dinner.Somehow there is a bit of tension between brother and sister, I am not certain but maybe the fact that we were in the hotel together could have been the cause, or maybe it's something else, I really don't know. This fades quickly anyway and we're back to joking and laughing and havinga good time. Same as before, all the restaurants are crazy busy and brother lacking patience because he has a Mahjong game later, we check 4 or 5 places and finally get a table in a Cantonese restaurant. Dinner is good, he pays yet again, he absolutely won't let me pay anything since we are here. He leaves us for his game and we go shopping for dad and his wife, a jacket and a sweater to which I will add some fruit and some Belgian chocolates as they seem to be extremely popular, I am invited to have home made lunch tomorrow, and we will have morning tea with brother, he wants to make me taste Kung fu tea, apparently a concentrated and powerful version.

The hotel room really seems to be a no no and I don't mind at all, so we finish the evening in a coffee shop, she falls asleep in my arms and later we give the guests there a demonstration of kissing techniques, lucky we are not the only ones but we do get noticed, so far the only laowai I have seen in Zhanjiang was a guy in my bathroom mirror :D Chinese lessons are still continuing, she makes me ask for the way to the sea, back to her place, call the waitress ... my progression is slow but it's coming (she cracks up because of my pronunciation but people start to understand me), and I now understand numbers when I Mai dan which is Hen Hao I think.

We'll spend one more day here and then return to Jiangmen on Tuesday morning, a five hour bus trek. My sweetheart's friend wanted to talk to me on the phone today, with about 3 words of English ... now apparently I will meet some of her friends in Jiangmen, the news that she has a laowai boyfriend has spread like a wildfire and they all want to check me out it would seem :D I think it will be fun!

I want to give a red envelope to my future half sister in law, she is studying and has no income, and maybe one for brother's 2 year old daughter, if you have suggestions on appropriate amounts I would really appreciate, and do I need to do a lucky bill combination or do I just hand out 100's?

More later,
Frank
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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #53 on: February 14, 2010, 01:46:49 pm »
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I'll figure out her size while we're doing that,


Ask her the size because you are thinking of buying a present for your Mother/fav Aunt/Neice/Daughter and they are about the same size as her...

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #54 on: February 14, 2010, 02:43:46 pm »
Hi Frank,

A real fantastic story. BTW, if you thinking of taking her home, I can confirm that family reunification accordingly to the EU rules works fine. My wife just received her resident permit for the next five years. :icon_cheesygrin:

Happy new year! ???!
爱你的人如果没有按你所希望的方式来爱你,那并不代表他们没有全心全意地爱你。
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

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« Reply #55 on: February 14, 2010, 03:06:04 pm »
Just so happy for you Frank ! You know that makes " US " three happy German's here ... that found happiness from a far away place .
You , Hajo and Me . Good to hear from Hajo again and glad his Story is all coming together quite well , of which we are sure to like to hear more of . Hint ...hint !

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #56 on: February 14, 2010, 09:02:52 pm »
Wowowow! Congrats to the luckiest man in the world !
Men are great thinkers coz they have 2 heads (just don't think with the wrong one!) & women are great talkers coz they have 2...:icon_cheesygrin:

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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #57 on: February 14, 2010, 10:17:21 pm »
I'll second the wow.

That was fast, but I guess you know when you know.  Congratulations!!!

I don't know if I ever could do it that fast. No on second thought I KNOW I couldn't do it that fast.
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RE: Guangdong Reloaded
« Reply #58 on: February 15, 2010, 12:37:45 pm »
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I'll second the wow.

That was fast, but I guess you know when you know.  Congratulations!!!

I don't know if I ever could do it that fast. No on second thought I KNOW I couldn't do it that fast.


Jeff, if you meet the right girl, you can do it very fast. Believe me.

Arnold, I got your hint..hint. I hope Irish has enough space on the server. Its going to be a long story, :angel:
爱你的人如果没有按你所希望的方式来爱你,那并不代表他们没有全心全意地爱你。
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

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« Reply #59 on: February 15, 2010, 02:27:40 pm »
Haha fast? Hajo thanks for the info, I'll most certainly use it when that time comes, but I will try and get a tourist Visa first for her, see how she likes life with me in my house and with my family ... although again I'm sure it will work out great.

Jeff, I know it sounds crazy, I thought date a few months, think about it well and weigh the pros and cons ... but I don't see any cons, she exceeds all my ideas of the ideal woman, we love each other like crazy and she has the same view as me even though she is still "considering" officially:P But the family introductions are done, approval was obtained, and she told me today she is glad she made that decision ... We took a pile of pictures the last couple of days, and had many taken of us and they all speak bliss, people have commented about what a nice couple we make, so sweet and romantic :angel:and today the question came from a friend's girlfriend, "When is the wedding planned?" Haha ...  But seriously, I think I can make her happy, those who met me can testify that I smile a lot, yet I smile even more now, she makes me happy and everything feels comfortable and right, all her family are really nice people which also gives me confidence.

Hope you guys will behave well on the 20th, she will be there with me ...

Now a quick update, her aunt (daddy's wife) made a special lunch for me, 8 different dishes and really delicious including sand worms in garlic sauce which they had noticed I liked, I think I committed sand worm genocide today :D I was warmly welcomed when I arrived, dad greeted me in English and got up for that bearing a big smile, he truly seemed happy to see me and I think he is happy for us. Before lunch was gift time, a jacket for dad, a sweater for auntie, a red envelope for her sister and some Belgian chocolates (Sorry Willy, these were meant for you but I heard that dad and brother like chocolate so I won't be adding to your waistline this time, my apologies, but I'll be sure to bring you some on the next occasion :blush:). Everybody takes care of me all the time, even the conversation is primarily in English, my sweetheart is loading my bowl with food and pays attention to my every needs even before I know about them myself, I am constantly pampered and spoiled. Its a wonderful lunch in a warm and wonderful family.

After lunch we picked up brother's best friend and wife, bought some fireworks (enough to start a war) and went to visit the Zhanjiang Volcano park with its crater lake below sea level, it was a bit cold but good fun all the same. We visited the Buddhist temple there and my girl and I burned some humongous incense sticks and prayed to Buddha, and then to a Chinese goddess of fertility. Will I be daddy soon? With such a wonderful mom at my side? I certainly hope so. Brother keeps paying for everything and I am starting to feel bad, he even paid for tomorrow's bus tickets to Jiangmen, my stay is certainly punching a hole in his savings.

Then we went to barbecue style dinner and headed to the beach to shoot some fireworks, scary business as most don't seem to do what they're supposed to :D.Nobody got burned anyway. KTV was next on the program with a bunch of brother's friends, I did some singing (my first KTV) and it was fun, again this was organized for me ... Around 11pm we have late night dinner, again this was brother's idea for me, he must have noticed that I lost a little weight the last few days and is probably worried, so I end up being stuffed like a goose. We then separate, my girl and I head off to our favorite coffee shop and give the waitresses kissing lesson number 3 while brother and his friends go to play Mahjong again. We get kicked out of the place at 1 am and walk home, a good excuse to spend some more time together although the weather is now really fresh and drizzly. As per a miracle I find the way without getting lost although I had my doubts at times, this was quite a walk and through streets that we had never used before. I dropped her off at her parents house, we had a hard time splitting up but now I am in the hotel tired and happy.

Tomorrow we hit the road to Jiangmen, it will be an occasion to meet her friends and get to know her mom and little niece some more. I will give the niece a red envelope to compensate her father's spending somewhat, and I still have to find a gift for mom ...



Life is beautiful!

Frank
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