Hello fellow ChnLove members,
Well, another sad story to add to the board of fellow members who have been heartbroken. And, hoping that you guys can eventually help me out. I rarely make any posts on this board, but do like to lurk and read the good news stories from you guys. I was going to add mine, but had to see how mine played out first.
Well, after talking with this woman (LiHong) for over a year, we decided to get married. I went to China to meet with her in Dec 2009, and after 3 days together we were married. Our personalities meshed with each other and we got along just great while together. The only barrier was language, which we managed to overcome with her electronic translator, and my phrasebooks. It was 2 weeks of bliss in Beijing, Shenyang, and Huludao. The best time of my life.
Now, after 3 months, she wants to get a divorce. The reasons are because of the language barrier, not wanting to face an interview in the consulate, her not seeing a great future for herself in Canada, and several other reasons. With the help of my Mandarin teacher, she spoke to my wife, and she seemed to change her mind, but now I believe she has changed her mind once again. My wife will not write me, or even chat with me on QQ. Truthfully, I have been putting all the effort in trying to keep the relationship, but with her not responding to me, I think that I am now giving up on her. What is heartbreaking, is that throughout the year before I left, I asked her many times if she was Ok to come to Canada, and her response was yes, and that she would go anywhere with me because she loved me. That's why I married her.
I am going back to China later this week to see if I can salvage this, but honestly I think that this is a lost cause. I believe that I'll be signing papers for a divorce. What a kick in the a$$.
I love the women of China, the culture, and the country. However, I now am reluctant to get into another relationship with a woman from there because of this, and not wanting to get my heart broken again, especially after spending so much money.
So, I ask, do any of you guys, or your Chinese wives that are here, know any single Asian ladies from Ontario that I could be hooked up with? I am 43yrs old, looking for someone 32-42yrs old, looking for a lasting relationship. I have a lot of love to give, but I seem to always pick the wrong women.
Please feel free to message me if you have any questions.
RC