I wasn’t expecting a sex liberal, dancing on the tables and showing her breasts. But I did not expect celibacy either. Yes, I have some sex issues with my lady.
, I would really appreciate to hear your opinions on how to approach this, guys. :-)
Hans
In my opinion - and remember this is my opinion - I am not Dr What's her name - who claims to be an expert on all matters about sex - your lady said exactly what she should say - "we can discuss more after we’ve married."
What else do you want her to say?
It has been said that we in the West are often times more direct. For example, in the beginning of a relationship, you might directly ask your lady "Do you love me?' And you are expecting a direct answer.
But her answer will be something like, "You must first ask the moon, the moon will tell you." In other words, you are not going to get a direct reply - because that is the culture - this is the way.
The answer your lady has given - is exactly the one you should get!
Now once you get over the initial stages of things, and the person understands - your intentions are honorable - they match hers - that is marriage, then and only then will you get direct answers about topics that are deemed to be sensitive. Even then, it is on you to be sophisticated enough to broach the subject. Otherwise, you will find yourself, often - and I do mean often - talking to the moon!
Going through a translator in my opinion is definitely not good. Emails - in my opinion - or only okay to clarify something discussed - face to face on QQ and or Skype. They are not good to start off the subject or to get any sort of details about this subject.
If you have something to discuss about this subject, to me I am doing this face to face, and I am only talking about this once I know the person understands my intentions and my intentions truly match hers.
If you have met this person faced to face - maybe this is when it is best to talk about the subject. Not afterwards when you are both thousand miles away.
Maybe the best input I can pass on is - first fully discuss and make sure you are on the same accord about "Marriage." About engagement, about family, about life after marriage - these are all topics that should be discussed throughly and in-dept - first. If you have not done this, then perhaps you need to "Ask the moon" about when your stint with celibacy will be over!" Because - if this is the case, only the moon will know. :icon_biggrin:
Alton