Thanks for more of your insights, guys. I wrote the first post when I was annoyed and a bit emotional, that's when I need your advice the most! Haha. Honestly, I appreciate all the opinions here.
Kenny, I wrote that I care a lot for her because the word love is used so carelessly these days. Somehow it just felt better to write that I care for her. I also think love is something that can grow by time, by showing affection over time, in different situations (just a hug at the right moment, a phone call, something sent in the mail). I didn't fall in love with my lady at first sight, I've come to admire her personality during our correspondence. She's just a great, great person (and of course I find her physically attractive too). We spent seven months of writing EMFs and emails (and during the last few weeks or so also phone calls and QQ), I went to see her with little expectation after some confusion a few weeks before I left. But our time together was great. Except from some misunderstandings caused by cultural differences, I think everything felt very good and she said the same. She is the most caring and sweet woman I have ever met, completely different from the girls I've met in Sweden. We'll talk about the sex part when we meet in June and I hope we'll come to some kind of understanding. I think maybe I may just have to get used to the idea of being engaged first. So yes, maybe I should have written that I love her. Because I feel a security and honesty with her that I have not felt with any other woman.
Sure I've had doubts from time to time, which I think is completely normal. After all, although I have been in relationships before I have never even been close to marriage and this time around it may happen very soon (from my perspective). It's a big thing, I don't plan to marry more than once in life (before you say anything, half of the marriages in Sweden ends with divorce so yes, there are certainly people taking it lightly).
And then, when I'm here writing about my doubts, I get a big package in the mail. My lady has made two cute pillow covers and sent to both me and my mother (my mom turns 60 in April). And my heart just melts again. :heart: It's just like she can sense that my concerns need to be silenced for a while...