I left, or avoided the forum for quite a period of time. My reason was that it was not giving me what I felt I needed. What I was seeing was "high school cheerleaders" yelling RA RA, or the opposite, (remember Mike). I have come to accept this forum (for me at least) has two functions. The first was to get a look at life with a Chinese bride and what to expect when I visited the first time. I was reading the forum and looking for the experiences of those who have walked the walk, and can now talk the talk that only comes with experience. What turned me away were those that were talking and talking, but had yet or still yet have not walked the talk. It was repetitve and at times childish. Now I look at the forum as a place to pass the time until I get my K-1 visa and bring XiuRu here. I am happy to share where I am in the process, and enjoy hearing from others going thru the process and where their application process is headed. I also do not mind sharing ideas or my thoughts with those new members that have questions and looking for suggestions (not answers). I just do not do the small talk and cheer yells well. I will make my second trip in 3 weeks, and spend the time up north with very little time with family and friends. I have passed the interview process with family, now I just want time alone with my wife. So for me, I enjoyed the spirited debates we had earlier, I hope that there are more debates in the future, but I do not see the forum every day. Just my 2 cents on the issue. buzz
Oh and on the K-1 visa process. A look at the time line of the homeland security department web site for length of time; it is now 5 months from receiving the application to delivery. That is if there are no requests for additional information. Just an FYI.