Jeff,
I am not an expert like most of these other guy's, but I can tell you several things I have found out and noticed while on here.
First of all, on your first trip, it is usually a physical thing, you both see if the chemestry works between both of you. You end up
visiting family, and doing a lot of site seeing with her. Don't expect to jump in the sack with her as that is not the chinese way,
however, it usually happens if everything works out as witnessed by several members here. When you leave after the first trip,
it has been known to be with a proposal, or engagement and sad tears as you get on the plane. The space between the first encounter
and the second is like an eternity. In the meantime you will be filling out tons of paperwork and waiting for answers from your
respective government. Now, sometimes this also takes a second trip, to meet the parents or relitives and make nice to everyone
by a custom known as "Red Envelopes" (the guys can fill you in on this one) as it means monetary gifts. You and your future
wife will spend a lot of time on the second trip taking pictures, and visiting nice places like the embassy and other chinese offices
of boredom, but there will be plenty of time to be with each other, ususally on the buss or train, but wait there's more...you can
get married on the second trip, providing all and I mean all your paperwork is in order. And there is so much paperwork to do
you won't believe. But like the guy's say, if you really love her, you won't mind jumping through a bunch of hoops. Now if you
don't get married on the second trip, you will on the third. Be prepaired to wear really wild outfits, specially the chinese kind, pass
out ton's of those red envelopes and choke from all the incense also at the dinner party that you will have to go to, be prepaired
to get really, really drunk. I think its like a required class in college, but you have to drag your way through it. Let's see, oh and
lots more paperwork, pictures things like that. Now, you still can't bring her home yet, as now you have to fight and wait for
your visa for her. This may or may not take time, its kind of up to the customs of your country. In the mean time this gives
you plenty of time to QQ with your new wife, who is missing the hell out of you and wishing you were there. When the big
day arrives and her visa comes through, your about to bust. Now don't forget things like k-1 visas and interviews with customs
things like that, but agian ask the guys here as they know the ropes better than anyone around. Now if you really love her, you
won't mind as your going to spend the rest of your life with her and she will be the best investment you ever made !!!
Don