Dear members,
I just want to say hello, and wish you all luck with your love :-)
My name is Henrik, and I was born in 1974 in Odense/Denmark. Educated as a lawyer, but today I have a company who is manufacturing items in China and sell it to Europe. Apartment in Shenzhen, office in Xiamen and factory in Shangzhou.
First I had a good Danish marriage for 10 years and got two fantastic kids. The marriage ended, and now I'm with my sweet Chinese girlfriend Ying. (Pictures attached)
I met my beautiful Hunan girl in Shenzhen in November 2009, and today we share an apartment in Nanshan, Shenzhen. When we met 6 months ago her English was poor, but today it is almost fluent.
To the new members I would like to say that, yes there is a cultural difference and sometimes we have to do things we think is wrong. Such as pay dowry etc. But believe me, you future wife is willing to do things she think is taboo-breaking too.
To the old members who live with their Chinese wife in their western country. I have a question. Are your wife happy? Is it difficult for her to find friends among westerners? I fear that people could think of me like; Rich white guy, getting young poor Chinese girl as a house slave... In here we know it is not the truth. Can you follow me? I don't care what people think, but I fear it can be difficult for our Chinese wife to feel 100% equal in our western country. Maybe I'm wrong, I hope so, but I have decided with my girlfriend that we in the future try to live in both Denmark and China. In China she is in control and she is so strong and independent. I fear she would maybe not be like that in Denmark. Any ideas or experiences?
And then a picture of me sailing outside Xiamen :-)