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Axiom:
Hello,

While I didnt meet this woman through chnlove I am still going to post it here since places like this have some of the greatest info and insight into the Chinese womans mind I have seen.


I met this woman online through Livemocha.. and we were friends for a year and then one day we were up talking and we realized we had a real connection and started to have a relationship... she sent me love notes and chocolates... i sent her gifts and roses, for 6 months everything seemed fine.

Then about two days ago she sends me this.....


"     Dave, I decide to give it a shot, but can we make a compromise ? Because only when we really meet each other can we truly know weather we are compatible ,isn't it ? And that can't be realized before I graduate .So I want to talk it over with you : can we lose contact before I graduate ? That means no talk on MSN,no email,no phone call .Because even we talk everyday, there is nothing we can do in this year,but pain result from missing.And we are not in a relationship anymore. So if you find another women that really compatible with you ,you are completely free to date.And I will bless you and support you as a friend .
     This year will be a test to our love and it's a chance for us to calm down and rethink our choice.
     If you don't find another women ,we can try to contact each other in next June,maybe Childrens' Day,that's one month before I graduate,then we can arrange in advance when and where will we meet .
     How do you think of that ?  Is that okay with you ?"


I know about the loyalty of a Chinese woman, but a year? and why?

Does anyone have insight on why she would do something like this? And why she tells me to find another woman if she wants to come back to me?

I am getting mixed signals here and I am not sure what to think....

//--- this thread is proof women the world over dont know what they want ;P

odysseus007:
A "Dear John" letter, IMHO. I have never heard anything so absurd.

Now the chips are down... either go meet her or hold your breath for a year... Probably she met somebody else.

shaun:
If it is possible I'd get over there asap and meet her.  She may be thinking you will never come and want to get on with her life.  For her the clock is ticking.  Having been there I will tell you it makes all of the difference in the world.  If you need to sell something of value or if you have the money I'd go.  Beg, borrow or steal, not literally but you get the idea.

RobertBfrom aust:
Hi Axiom , This young lady has brains , the most important thing for her at present is to graduate , and fair enough , graduating to both her and her family must come first , as you have as I read it been conversing with her for 18 months and in all that time not visited her , you could either firm up to meet her in her major semester break , probably around September or just go with what she has said .
 She is obviously studying hard  and it is not cheap to go through uni in China along with then finding a job , so I would say relax ask her if you may talk 1 time a week and also chat to others , most Chinese women seem very philosophical about the future , and until things are set in stone face to face nothing is permanent , regards Robert .

Willy The Londoner:
Lets hang fire here guys.  She says when she 'Graduates'.  How old is she.  She must be still at Uni. or College.  The last year is most important as the exams in a year or so time will define what sort of degree she gets.

I think you are just on the back burner until she graduates.  She has a lot of studying to do between now and then and she does not want to be so involved in the run up to graduation.   She knows how she feels and maybe in the back of her mind she wants nothing to happen that may well affect her results or anything happening that may well stop her taking the exam altogther.  I do not have to spell that out, she is young and able and I expect you are as well.

She is making a serious decision and she should not down cry her she is looking to the future.  What if she concentrates on our brother more than her exams.  If she does not pass with high marks then the years would have been wasted.

She need high marks to get even a mediocre job here and if you do do not work out and she has not the qualifications then where will it leave her.

She is a very wise lady and if you are able to wait then I would if you are young enough.
 
If you cannot wait another year because age is catching up on you then what do i say.  Let her go and let someone else have the pleasure of a very sensible young lady in a couple of years time.

Willy

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