Thanks for the replies, guys!
Yes, the article didn't feel like it had much to do with my lady and I...
I'm not very comfortable with these red envelopes either, to be honest it feels rather awkward and weird. But I know it's their custom. My lady is the oldest child but only one of three. They have a younger daughter and a younger son as well and my impression is that they are reasonably wealthy by Chinese standards (meaning they have three kids and a nice apartment behind a gate in their home town while living and working in another town). I don't know if this gives any hint of anything, but I can say they're NOT poor farmers.
I saw Nik's video before, indeed great to watch!
From the very beginning my lady has never asked me about how much money I earn and have, we've simply never discussed money at all (she has mentioned, however, that I am expected to pay money to her parents when I marry her and this was no news to me). At first I thought she just did not want to talk about money in case I would question her sincerity but not long ago when I, out of pure curiosity, asked her if it was expensive to register at the agency she just said 有点贵!(pretty expensive) but that it was worth it and did not want to say anything more. So it seems she is not very comfortable talking about money.
I guess I will just have to go ahead and ask her about the dowry in the end if I can't figure it out in any other way, but asking her about it is almost like asking your girlfriend how much her birthday gift should cost... Rather embarrassing. I guess I'm just looking for a figure here to determine if I'm completely out of it or if I'll be fine!
Martin, are you talking about the engagement or the wedding now?