Ok, I have a bit of a problem here and would like to hear some opinions on what you would do in this scenerio. When I joined chnlove over a year ago the first woman I sent a cupid note to answered it and we started our line of communication. We seemed to get along quite well. I was new to this so I was quite eager to have some success. Several weeks in I got a letter from her that startled me a little. In the middle of the letter it jumped to another topic completely, a topic that we had never discussed and she was addressing me as "John" after addressing me properly as "Dave" at the start of the letter. It had never occured to me that she might have been writing to other men. Hey, I was reasonably new to internet dating and talking to a chinese woman was really exciting for me to say the least. It was real easy to overlook some things that may be real important like how many men she may be writing to. I never thought of asking her about this so when I did ask the answer came back as yes, she was talking to other men.
As the next couple of letters went on I had been contacted by an other woman and one of my first questions to her was are you writing to other men. This other woman said that I was the only one she was corresponding with and we started to write to eachother. The communication with the first woman fell by the way side and we gradually lost touch. I do remember getting a letter from her out of the blue around the end of last october. I read it but never answered it as things seemed to be going well with the other woman.
That was last year.
Well after several failed attempts at a relationship and one failed attempt at meeting a woman, I had just started to write to another woman. We have only exchanged 4 letters to date. I went to send a letter to her today and I see a letter from this first woman in my EMF mailbox. She notifies me that she is still interested in me and is still single. (she is 47) She is very good looking. Yes, I know about the photo retouching that is done but there are a couple pictures of her that I had gotten from her that if you look closely enough you can see her age. I don't know what to think of this but I did reply to her letter. (I sort of could not help myself. I was quite fond of her.) I know there may be a chance that maybe she just ended a relationship or a man has ended it and she is trying other old contacts, (I'm calling myself old here!)but I just wanted to see what anybody else may think. I don't think that she was playing me or an agency was taking advantage of me. (Our letters to each other stopped rather quickly)
My feeling is to keep writing to the woman that I have just started writing to but maybe write to see where this old flame goes too. The new woman that I have just started to write to is 42 years old. As I said earlier, this old flame is 47 years old. I am 52 years old. I would like to find someone around my age. I told myself that 42 was the youngest age that I would accept. (I had been contacted by women as young as 27 years old! Way too young for me.) To be honest I did think about a couple that were 38 and 39 but there may have been certain parts of me that were trying to lead me down that path. It is a nice stroke of the ego to think about these younger ones especially when you think about your marriage failing due to your wifes infidelity, but I soon felt that it could be a very uncomfortable situation so I drew the line at 10 years difference. (This may still be too much but I will give it a try)
Back to the questions that I want to ask for responces to. Has anyone had dealings with agency P203 Sichuan Yitong Overseas Matchmaking Co. Ltd? Are they reputable? I am not the type to try to keep 2 or 3 "fish" dangling on the line and then decide on which one by meeting them face to face in china. Hell, with my memory I would have that all screwed up within a couple letters. Besides, I don't like the feeling that I get thinking about having more than 1 girlfriend.
So, what am I trying to ask here, besides about the agency. I guess I am asking if anybody has any useful advise about this type of situation. In my letter to this old flame I did tell her that I would require more direct contact with her, on-line chats, web cam chats...etc. I also told her that I have a QQ number but I did not give it to her. I guess maybe just let me know if you think that it would be a good idea to restart communication with the old flame. By the way, no Maxx I did not think about your 24 hour rule. I had composed a letter to her and sent it before I thought of the rule. I will keep it in mind next time.
Dave C
