I know for a fact , that the older brother does take the place of a passed away father , and in turn you must be on his good side to be with your Lady , unless she 's been Married before , which case it does relax matter's . I have felt this myself , even with both Qing's Parent's still alive . He carries a lot of weight in the Family . But not to scare on off his Lady , ask like Vince say'd to be sure , because I'm sure it varies with Family's and between City's and Countryside's .