Happy beginning sad ending

[Vince G]

I don't know if he will read this until he gets back, but I can't help but feel there is more to this then told. Maybe he doesn't know yet but I can't see it being that important that there isn't some kind of compromise? I hope he gives us some answers?

[JimB]

You know what they say about falling off of a horse.  You need to get right back on.  I am sure you felt crushed.  Any one of us would.  But you need to get right back into it.  No matter if it is a Chinese woman or not.  I can understand your not wanting to try another woman there so fast.  But give it a week or two and get up dust yourself off and try again.  You had a bad experience so treat it like that.  An experience.  Learn from it and go on.

[Arnold]

Guy's , you know that will hurt Chad for a long time . I can only imagine what and how he feel's now . This will be a huge blow to his confidence . We must not fool ourself's here .
Jim , I know you mean well , but I really think he needs to be with Family , friends ... who can make him forget this first , to ever get back on that Horse and see another Woman for a while . Pills , is not the only answer here . Viagra is NOTHING if your Soul and Heart are not there .
Of course I would like him to get over it fast , but Chad ... you take as much time as you need ... buddy .

[Martin]

I agree with Arnold...and Chad, we are all here for you.  You want to get stuff off you chest, we are all here to listen, and throw our two cents in.

[Scottish_Rob]

Chad as arnold said mate, take your time, you will need that to get over it.

Aand as for the  rest..., yes mate.... we are all here for you
Good luck mate

[Chad]

Well guys I got home late last night. Of course my luggage is still in Chicago but who needs that stuff anyway. When the plane was ready to board in Shangai they said they had to disinfect it. So that took an hour so by the time I got to Chicago I just made it on the plane in time. Hopefully my bags will show up soon.

You know all the way home all I could do is kick myself but it was to late to do anything. I think I may have narrowed down another reason, maybe. Well not really another reason but. When Ying and I were talking about the prostate operation my transolator thing would not transolate the word so she used hers. And until the flight back where I had all the time in the world to simmer, I had forgot that her machine transolated prostate cancer to the word diesase. What a diference. So if she was thinking I had a diesase then I kind of see her point. Although I am sorry that she would not even talk about it with me before she came to her own conclusion.

But one thing I do want to add is that she never, never asked for anything from me while we were together like money or anything else. I paid for all the meals but that dosn't count. I tried nemerous times to buy her things or things for her daughter and she always said no. So to me she was not after anything but love. So that makes me feel that she was indeed for real. I really do hope the very best for her.

Up until the time she wanted a divorce it was so good. So I do have a lot of good memories from my visit but they are definatly over shadowed by the ending.

The last day there I spent just walking the streets. I even walked by a drug store that advertised Vigra, imagine that. I was determined to never to try it again. But you know there is something mysterios about the place that draws you in. So I will give it some time to lick my wounds and then I will probably try it again. I have learned a lot from this trip. So hopefully the next one will be the one.

[Ed W]

I think you got the right attitude Chad. Coming away from this with a new understanding will likely prevent any misunderstandings about this going forward and likely you'll find the proper translation for this and bring it up early to weed out the herd.

[Gautam]

Chad are you still interested in her? I have a translator that will do a really good and precise translation and you can send the letter smail or if you have her e mail then by that route.

Tell me if you want to do this

[Chad]

Gautam, I appreacite your offer but she spoke enough english to be able to understand what the letters say and she has a friend who speaks real good english so if she wanted to she would have wrote back. It just didn't work for me and I just have to let time take care of my thoughts.