Dr Roos, thank you for your always fascinating comments and anecdotes.
I am not up in arms at all.
There is a time when there is nothing wrong with writing to more than one woman/man, and there is another time in which it is wrong to be writing to more than one woman/man. There are grey areas, when it's not easy to tell what is the right thing. But it is possible to define such situations in which most people, Asian and Western, would agree that it's not right to be writing to more than one woman/man.
I have nothing but best wishes for my dear woman. If she wishes to write to eight men, that's fine with me. I hope for her happiness. I think the world of her, and if I really thought she would be happier with someone else than me, then I would understand.
However if she was inviting new people to write to her, at the same time as she is telling me that she loves and cares about me, when we are planning our future together, then that changes things for me. It might be a clever thing for her to do, but it would certainly change my opinion of her.
I don't think that the attitudes you suggest are held by "the Asian female" are typical of the kind of women I have met through chnlove. Nor are the attitudes you suggest, held by the Western men here, for example, the hope for a compliant woman.
All in all I have been impressed by the high ethical standards of the women I have written to.
I would be disappointed if the women and men here played the game in the way you suggest. I may be wrong, but I doubt it *smiles*
Danny