She used to ask me why did i want a Chinese girl, what was so different from a western girl?
Here is one of the nicest things that still gets me all the time, maybe you guys have something else that your girl did or said that set her apart as different to what you are used to.
So what is it? - never ...say...thanks to her!!
To a guy that hasn't dated a Chinese lady he is thinking what the??!!
In the west we say thanks all the time, thanks for calling me, thanks for handing me change in the supermarket thanks for anything..it really doesn't have much meaning.
So if you cannot say thanks to the person you love the most..how do they know you are appreciative?
Getting it yet?
Actions speak louder than words, you give her a smile, a kiss , a hug, you show her you appreciate it. The stuff that got a meaningless thanks gets nothing but the stuff that matters, gets a hug, gets a smile..gets something meaningful.
I though it was very strange initially but once I though about it i really realised I just love this, as lovers we do nice things for each other naturally, why do we need to vocalise every little thing, a little smile is far nicer than a meaningless thanks mutters without thought, a hug if its a bigger thing..it just makes sense to me at every level.
So when she puts rice in my bowl, or some slippy vegetable i cannot possibly manage with chopsticks, i look her in the eye and smile and she knows its a real thanks. I know if I do something nice I'm getting a smile or a kiss + ..its better than a thanks!