Good post Jan. And keep following your heart and all the good advices people have given you here.
Abouth the Visa tho, hehe. Its the same here in Sweden and rest of Scandinavia usually its just a few days and "YES".
BUT, if there is, slightest miniest thing that they would start questioning, so tiny even you cant begin to understand what it could be.
Then the process can be loooooong. I have friends who it has happened for to both Russia and China. So better play it safe just in case.
I know i will.
About having a troubled past, i think many more then you often think have a whole book of adventures behind them beyond your imagination.
I have had many friends who have spilled something about their past first after several years. The girls i have been with, i confessed all my skeletons
and past before we got too serious. And i was equally afraid every time that they would leave the train. But chances are far greater they will
if shadows from your past starts emerging a year or so into your happy relationship. And skeletons starts falling out the closet one by one.
If i were a girl (which, for just a few days a month worth. Im happy i aint) i would probably find it offensive why the guy had deliberately hidden
that from me, when he confessed hes love and gave his heart. Moreover, if the person in question loves you by the heart. She might get shocked,
confused, or sad. But she wont care them. I use to say i live in the present and what i care is the future, not the things that can not be undone.
My parents divorced when i was 3, they are both quite terribledrunks. i spent 7 years growing up with foster parents. When i was 19 there was
probably not a single illegal substance i had not tested and god knows how many laws i had stepped on in my search for identity.
At 20 i was arrested as prime suspect for murder and had to go through quite a rough experience. But no, i had nothing to do with that.
But my best friend who i shared apartment with had and he got 8 years. He later on commited suicide. I have personally never even physically
harmed another human being if it wasnt in strict self defense. When i was 20 and beyond that incident i looked myself in the mirror and said this is not
what life is supposed to be like. And since then i have never looked back strongly believeing i have only changed for the better and still improving.
That shady part of your life you have to tell her before any commitments are made. Trust, Honesty, Loyalty. They are as sacred words when/if you
bond with her as they are to a brother of the same flesh and blood. Im an open book if people ask today, if they dont ask i might not say if theres
no such bonds. But i told all the people who meant something to me in my life. I even just told everyone here that i dont even know
, well in very rough
blocks. But i can tell you im sure there are guys here with even more crazed pasts. You dont have to do that, but you have to tell her. Never start a relation with a lie. It always comes back in 1 year or 12 years. But it will
Listen to the others who have already been through this regarding how to handle the translator etc. Best help and advice you could ever get.
I´ve taken a little extra interest in your case because i noticed you been here for awhile just reading. And i believe it was my story that gave you courage to share
yours. I might be wrong, but thats what i feel. And people often say its uncanny when i spook them with my intuition. If thats the case then im truly happy that what i shared gave the energy for another good guy to share hes.
Good luck!