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JamesM.Roberts:
Dear Pineau
Please remember -what I'm about to say,is not meant to be mean spirited-But congratulations- it sounds like you have just grown up a bit.
Alright maybe there was just a little mean spirit there :D but I swear it was NOT just aimed at you (as you have already learned) but instead is for the next fellow who goes China with plan A,B, or C. We need to remember that China is the ONLY country in the world where the female suicide rate is higher than the male suicide rate. We need to remember that many, many of these ladies are made to feel inferior to males, sometimes by their families, society,old boyfriends,ex-husbands etc,etc. So when a man rejects them or "toys" with their emotions they feel that HE must be right and that she is not worthy of love.
Not to mention the fact that many of these ladies are Buddhists, and believe that they must have done something wrong, to deserve the karma  that just bit them in the A**.
I myself, feel it is always wrong to play with anothers' heart strings and we all need to remember those strings can be easily broken.

Willy The Londoner:

--- Quote from: Chong on October 16, 2010, 01:37:29 am ---
Willy, you wroted about your dating experiences in China ... dating/sleeping with many until you finally met your wife. I'm sure that you broke many hearts. How is it any different than what's Pineau's doing ? This isn't a personal attack but an observation.

--- End quote ---

Two things I point out.  Every women I dated was just a date they knew that from the start.  Not one of them was under any illusion that it was anything more than that.   I never travelled thousands of miles to see them just took a 7 rmb taxi ride.  If they wanted me in bed then I would oblige.  If they were not ready for that then nothing happened.   In some cases it was just clinical in temporarilly removing the stress some women had built up in a solo state.     One many occasion I travelled home in the mornings with the feeling that I HAD BEEN used.  A happy feeling none the less!!!!!

 But what I take exception to was 'sleeping with women' -  there was never any time for sleeping!!  How does the phrase go. 'What I could do all night now takes me allnight!'

Willy

For the record I never did bed the only one I did travel thousands of miles to see!!   

 

Vince G:
There's a factor that seems to be skipped over. Obviously I don't have a problem with guys meeting more then one woman on a trip. But I think it is how you handle it and what you say or promise them that makes the trouble. If your telling them all the same thing like you love them and want to marry but going there to check them out then your deceiving them and maybe yourself as well. Leading them on is mean spirited and the wrong thing to do.

dude:

--- Quote from: mpo4747 on October 16, 2010, 10:30:18 am ---maybe if a guy has been able to have success on such a trip he could tell us how to do that? without causing all these problems.

--- End quote ---

Mike,

I can relate to what your saying. I wouldn't do it this way either! To each his own! He isn't a noob with this either, as Chong pointed out. Some post here with absolutely no experience butt I guess that's ok. :o

This is a two way street!!! Those with experience can use it or lose it. Pineau was kind enough to post his experience and was expressing his regret. We are all human right??? Everybody should respect this!!! Those that are new should be able to read and learn this may not be a good way to deal with it! Being here, in China, I see both sides of this particular coin! This isn't a matter of who's right and who's wrong. This is Pineau's experience and he's showing his regret. Live and learn guys!!! Don't be in such a attack mode like some individuals with absolutely no experience! >:(    People should be able to express what's up without being attacked by a clique or individuals without experience! This is a forum right??? ::)

dude!

maxx:
Two people two sets of emotions two lives.At no point and time is it ok to play with somebodies life.Or thiere emotions.This is not speed dating.For the woman.They have spent about 2 months of there salary.To even be listed on Chnlove.Yes we do spend allot of money and time.And do fly 6,000 to 7,000 miles.But it is not anywhere close to 2 months of my salary.If it is close to 2 months of your salary.Maybe you shouldn't be doing this until you get your salary where it  needs to be.Love will not support you entirely.You are going to need some cash.

For those of you.Who think the major expense is over.After you get the woman to your country.It is not true.You do not just set these woman on a shelf like a trophy.Each and everyone of my bills.Has come close to doubling since my wife has come to the states.From the food bill.All the way to the water bill.And that is to say nothing of the doctor bills.Hospital bills.clothes for your new wife.personell care products.Entertainment.

So why do this.If it is so much of a bother.And so expensive.Because I met a woman.Who I love.That was either silly or crazy enough to follow me half way around the world.Leaving everything behind that she ever knew..So maybe I  can act like the man in the relationship.And take care of my wife.She has given up so much to be with me.

Granted every one wants a sure thing.When we decide to do this.And make the trip to China..We struggle and vent are rage.At are governments.We vent are rage against custom and culture issues.The laungage issues.

Did I ever tell you this was easy?Did I ever tell you this was cheap? Did I threaten you with physical violence?.Did I hold a gun to your head? Each and everyday of your life is a choice.We all make choices everyday on how we choose to live are life.And sometimes those choices effect other peoples life's.So what do you choose today.Do you choose to try this.Or do you choose to try this half way.And treat it like a booty call.Messing around in somebody else's hopes and dreams.

I cannot see a problem writing to just one woman.Putting your efforts to try to connect with just the one woman.If it doesn't work it doesn't work.You either stop trying this.Or you try again.Simple choices.That only effect you.And the woman you were trying to hook up with.You are not leaving broken hearts all over China.And making the rest of us look like schmucks.Who just want to play.with the girls.

So what do you do if this goes of the tracks.You have a back up plan.For the sake of argument.I was going to go back to hong Kong.And then take a plane to Thailand.I have since learned that was a real stupid plan.I can go to any street corner in China.And truly attractive girls.Will come to me and start talking to me.Ive ben invited to thiere homes.Ive ben invited to eat with them.Or just spend the day with them.So you will never lack a woman's companionship in China.

If this approach still fails you.You can always have the agency name address and phone number.In the city where you will be staying.Most of the time If you call the agency.They will pick you up at your hotel.And introduce you.To other ladies.So your not out of options.If the lady that you have ben writing to do not connect

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