Gerry , if you need approval from Fiona's Ex .. depends on their Agreement on the final divorce paper . If she has FULL costody of her Daughter , she decides and he is out of the picture ( as in my Case with Qing's Son ) . What is shocking to me , as I now found out .. is Qing's Ex is actually going to send us Money to do the Paperwork for his Visa . This is a good sign that he still cares for his Son and is happy that he will go to School in America , that is such a big thing with the Chinese .. as they think America's Schools are the best . Well , I'm not going to change his Mind on that .. I'm no fool . haha