well guys it seems that things are not terminal like i thought, she has contacted me with a hundred texts and e,mails, i brought a new phone and entered her number incorrectly so that was my fault and i also did not set up the message settings to well either, she thought that i was dissolving the relationship as i thought she was.
Technology, i have no understanding of it so i let my kids set things up now and things work perfectly, She had textd me so many times and was beside herself with worry, she was messaging me at all hours of the day and night and was pleading with me to not ever leave her, i have a flood of texts that all came to my phone straight after the proper settings were installed.
I really was so heart broken when the contact was severed and never want for us to go through that again, We are better than ever now and she has really opened up in her deepest feelings toward me in the text messages, Tomorrow she starts with the English lessons part time and she still wants to work full time during the day and on weekends, she tells me that it is the only way for her not to go stir crazy whilst we are apart from each other, She is not bothered about the apartment in Handan and i suggested that we will look in to this later as i would love to live in China for a few months every year when my two youngest have flown the coupe in a few years, she agrees that this is a good idea, She is still beside herself with excitement about the up and coming wedding celebration in September, maybe we will bring this event forward to May, she is over the moon with this idea, See how work goes over the next six weeks as it is very slow at this moment.
Well we are both getting good night sleeps now and she texts me every night when she and her room mate are home safe after their evening meal, all i ask for is daily contact to know she is safe , I have not had much luck with communication lately in both translators and technology too.
well Vince yes i jumped the gun a little,
David, (1) was right on the money, just a glitch,
halfpint, thanks for your comments too.