Thanks for the advice guys, Willie, you are correct about me working long hours before but that was when my wife only had a casual job so i had no choice but to work to support her and my teenage son but i was always home by 3pm every day and we would go places together, my wife is home around 8-9pm every day so we have no time to go out to dinner or see family.
Last night when she arrived home she told me that her car needed petrol, i said i dont drive it, it is your car so you can pay for it, that didnt go down well haha, i dont mind filling the car with fuel but she just expects me to do everything with no help from her, ill get a text every-so-often telling me where to go and what to buy, i even go to her shop for maintenance/repairs and im always the one who puts my hand in my pocket, things have changed from before her visa was granted, she always offered to pay and helped me a lot in the early days.
I went to see my parents yesterday and my father commented that im back to square one again, i was alone when she lived in China and im alone again now !!, true words, I am alone.
Philip, you are correct, many lines have been drawn in the sand , they have all been crossed, i keep letting this happen, im sitting here now thinking that i sound like one of those abused women , "i love him, he will change", your all right, i need an escape plan.
Im not just going to run away to China, ive made it clear to her that i will go alone if needed, she tells me that she will live in her shop if this happens, The first thing is for my son to get a job and be independent,"thorn in my side", sort out my business and then plan to go to China.
John B, my wife would never agree to a pow wow, she would never tell her friends of any dilemma as she is too secretive, ill just keep my distance and plan my moves, ill try to be the good husband and hope i dont upset her again, thanks guys, John,
