Well guys, Last night MinYing gave me a late call from HK airport, Her mood had changed and she was ok, My reply to her was blunt like she treated me before, now i think it was childish to play her at her game, I woke this-morning and looked at my phone, no missed calls or messages, She should have arrived at Beijing airport around 10;30 last night, I waited until around 10 am and then I could not resist to call her as i was worried, Her phone was switched off, Then i remembered that she has no international roaming on her phone so she must have used the WI FI at HK airport, Anyway, 12 pm came and she gave me a message on QQ, she was at the family home and she was fine and told me that she misses me, i told her the same, hopefully things are good now .
i thank everyone for their comments since posting last night, I dont give my wife an "allowance" as we have a joint account and she is free to do what she wants, MinYing also has been working here and i never ask her how much she gets or what she spends it on, My weekly pay is used for the roof over our heads and weekly living costs, food, bills ect, as for me working 7 days a week this is true, i have had 2 days rest in the last 8 weeks or so, I have a small business installing commercial windows and doors and now there is more work than me and my partner can handle during the week so we have to work weekends, It was not so long ago that the work dried up and I had no personal income for 3 months so this hurt me financially , now the work is there i will make as much money as i can, I left for work at 6 this-morning and arrived home at 5pm, but tomorrow i will rest, MinYing knows that I do like to keep busy and maybe the last few months have been difficult as we only have had a few hours together each day, i understand this.
As for my friend in Ningbo I deleted her from QQ, so no more contact with her, I think with me working so many hours and her being alone sometimes she does feel homesick, I know i would if i was in a foreign country.
I explained AGAIN that I have spent around 4 months with her on my 7 or 8 trips to china and it was at great expense and also i came to be with her every time and never saw another woman.
Maybe one of her friends have been whispering in her ear, this is a possibility, She talks a lot to friends on QQ, maybe someone is saying that her foreign husband should give everything that she wants, i dont know.
As for going home and splashing the cash around, I gave her what we can afford at this moment, She also has the money from her job, I never see her buy anything with her pay so i think she has saved the money , We want to go to Thailand in January so i need to conserve some funds for this holiday too.
Im not ready to give up, this is the last thing on my mind right now, I will see how she is over the next few weeks and hopefully some time with the family will do her good.
Another thing about money, She told me that I took her debit card from her months ago, I told her that i never did this and emptied the contents of my wallet on the table and to my surprise there it was, She told me that she left it on the kitchen table and i took it, All i can think of is that i thought it was mine and put it in my wallet as im always leaving my card on the table after i give it to my son or daughter if they need it, i never looked at the name on the card just must have picked it up, my bad, I also have an old account which my ex pays her child support in to, I never closed this account as my son will be 18 soon and then the child support would stop, too much hassle to change accounts with child support so i left it active, she thought that i had a secret stash in this account so i showed her on the computer then she could see that there is minimum monies here and she was ok with this, I dont understand why to keep bottled up inside and not ask straight away, it just makes your mind think the worst,.
Anyway, things look rosy again and i hope they stay this way, John.