Guys, I have read everyone's response to my latest posts, The reason I have posted here is to receive advice from all of you who have been is similar situations or just have good advice, I am not ready to give up as I love this woman with all my heart, It is true that there are a million+ women in China who would be be a good wife for me and I am sure that there are a million plus for all of us there, MinYing is the one that I chose to go to be with many times, at great expense financially and emotionally, Different culture will play a big piece in the relationship of all of us and communication is the big key, I went in to this a bit blind, did a bit of research of Chinese women on the internet and had a few great Chinese girlfriends here so i thought i was prepared, WRONG.
Today my wife got a Chinese phone card for her phone and sent me a message on QQ, I asked for her number and called her, I thought her response to me was a little cold, no "hello darling or hello lao gong, just hello", I asked if she was unhappy and she told me she was happy then said she was with a friend and she had to go, that was all.
I have decided to give this time to contemplate my future, I will go to China to teach English with or without her, If i dont then I will always have it in the back of my mind wondering if I have made the right choice.
I have 2 weeks here alone to think and communicate with my wife via QQ and phone, It is in my mind that if things do not change then I will cancel her return trip to Australia, not to teach her a lesson but let her think of what she wants out of life and if I am to be a part of it, At this moment i hope I hope she returns and I dont have to put up with emotional blackmail, I know that she has access to this site and reads my posts often but I dont think she has read the latest, Maybe she can see how I am feeling.
One thing is going through my mind now, Is my love affair with my wife only or with China too?, Every time I went there 8 or 9 times, I always insisted that we travel, This time 3 years ago I was on the "great wall", Just met MinYing 3 days earlier and was utterly fascinated with China, The friendliness of the people and the chaos of daily life, I have China in my thoughts every day, Here I just go to work and come home to relax, Not a good life.
Well, I will see how things go over the next few weeks and go from there, I will see how the conversations and attitude go and then make my decision, I hope to see her again , John>