its not all been a bed of roses as you know from my previous posts, now she has her PR, and recently a drivers licence, she went in to partnership in a shop with her Chinese friend without first consulting me, she works 7 days a week and i see her for maybe 1 hour each day, she is so secretive with everything she does, she brought the shop back in late December so it is now 3 months since we spent some time together, I cant have friends, im not allowed to talk to anyone, if a message comes to my phone she is looking over my shoulder to see who it is from, if i get a phone call she demands that she knows who i am talking to whilst im on the phone, if she gets a call, which is every minute it seems she goes outside and talks for 20--30 minutes at a time, it seems that there are 2 sets of rules.
When she lived in China i brought her a TV, which she gave away, I brought her an English-Chinese translator 5,500 RMB which she gave away, I brought her a laptop, which she gave away, now she complains her friends husbands buy them what they want and why i dont do the same !!!!, i also brought her an I pad which she complained it was too small, i cant win....
She knew of my dream to become an English teacher before we was married, now she tells me that she has no intention of returning to China with me for my job, I kept all of the emails that were sent between us and and showed her the ones where i stated my intentions, she now denies writing any of these ones.
Around 4 months ago, my kids came over for dinner as they usually do on a Thursday night, She poured herself a glass of red wine and i knew it was going to be a fun night as she cant hold her liquor, I was watching TV with the kids and she sent me a text message, from 8 feet away, i left it fo a few minutes then reached for my phone to see what she wrote, it was then that she sprung from her seat and grabbed the phone and accused me of getting a message from a girlfriend
, she threw the phone at the wall and destroyed it, bye bye Iphone 5, then threw a glass against the wall.... then she proceeded to pour another glass of wine which i quickly took away from her, I sat at the kitchen table with my daughter and future son-in-law when she came to me and put her hands around my throat and squeezed as hard as she could and said she wanted me dead, i just stared at her and did nothing, she was subdued by my son-in-law, my daughter freaked out, Minying then went to bed, my daughter got every knife, fork and any other weapon she could find and locked them in the car as fear of her killing me in my sleep, next day she acted as nothing happened.
Im really at my wits end, i don't know what to do about her, i need help.