Shaun, I've been in contact with my lady in Qingdao since Dec 24th.
(1) I got her phone number, spoke maybe once or twice for about 5 minutes...
(2) Won't do the web cam because it's against her agency rules, well she said she would be 'breaking her contract'....
(3) Doesn't want to go to 'internet cafe', said it can be frightening.....
(4) have her email address we send email now and again, not long letters....
(5) have her Yahoo address but she never on it, have sent maybe one or two IM's to each other...
(6) Some Letters shorter
(7) I have asked her for agency translator for over the phone so I could call the agency and speak to her that way
The point I am trying to make is; These may be HER real Reasons
#1.....Not good English
#2.... Don't want to get into trouble with the agency
#3.... Don't want to get into 'Frightening situations
#4....Still need translators help
#5.... No computer at home
#6....She knows about my financial situation, or maybe she's had a long day and is tired?
#7....Was told, the agency cannot do that
However the letters we send each other is not about quantity, it's about the quality of what we are talking about in the previous letters....In the 110 letters I have received from her only 2 were short, and in the same respect some (more than 2) have been quite short compared to the length I usually write. What I want to do is 'SEE' her and 'TALK' to her, but if she don't feel ready then 'WHY' push it, I understand about the cost of Emf's guys, at the start I used to to send about 4/5 a week, now it's down to 3 one week and 2 the next.
I have 'felt' like asking the agency for these things, but as one member told me when I spoke to him through yahoo, you may make her 'lose' face by going behind her back, and as you people know, THAT is something that I would never want to do....
Oh and she knows that I cannot go there to see her until November this year, obviously wanted me there quicker, but understood why I couldn't..So in total that will have been 11 whole months of Emf's with no look see, or talk to, But because of the feelings we have for each other we are waiting, one more thing I will say, it is 'Bloody Hard'.
I hope this may take some of your thoughts and show you that 'she' maybe thinking about 'your' situation, sorry if I've got this wrong.