Hi Chong and Rob, Thank you for your questions and honest expressions of your feelings.
Little can be said about my identity, but in that little I have already said I am a translator for one agency who works with chnlove. The relationship between chnlove and agency is cooperation. For chnlove, you are their clients and ladies are resources, for us, ladies are our clients and you resources.
If you ask me whether there are fraudulent letters on chnlove, you can expect answers similar to that from a white house spokesperson who has been asked if there are corruptions in the U.S. government. All the help I can offer is some advice to help you identify the authenticity of the letters.
1. First and foremost, ask your heart! When two people are genuinely in love, you feel something special in your heart.
2. Every two weeks, check if the lady has refreshed her profile. There is a rule that the lady can refresh her profile every 14 days.
3. If your feeling to her grows strong enough, send her a gift without telling her beforehand and wait for her response.
There are indeed some other methods that are rumoured as helpful but I do not recommend.
1. Ask the lady to write your name on a paper (or hold a bunch of flowers you send her) and take a picture of that scene. In more than 50% cases this request will be deemed as an insult.
2. Ask for phone number or email address in the beginning pairs of letters. Such requests are appropriate to be raised after 10 pair of letters or at least 5 pairs. If she agrees to talk on phone, web cam request will often be accepted meanwhile.
There is a way that newly comes to my mind and has never been seen used before. And I suggest you to try it and see the effectiveness.
Ask chnlove to fetch from the agency translated versions of your letter and original versions of the lady's letter.
The advantage of this method is that it does not disturb the lady or let her know your doubt, so her feeling to you and your communication won't be affected.
The logic of the method is like this. If an agency writes fakes letter, they'll never do any translation work to save time and labor. Indeed they can do the translation even if they write fake letters but the additional work will dramatically reduce the profit they make without translation hence dampen their motivation to write fake letters. So if chnlove can make it a compulsive regulation to attach the two Chinese versions of all the emf letters, the fear and worry for fake letter, I guess, will drop significantly too.