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Offline Bee964

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #30 on: March 15, 2011, 11:44:17 pm »
Jimmy;
 
I will have my fingers crossed for you and your wife.

Martin;

Give me a call sometime or I can call you if you want.

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #31 on: March 18, 2011, 11:53:47 am »
Martin... we have talked about meeting in Changsha again and I hope this will be a reality in the future.. We do have a spare room with a bed for you...

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #32 on: March 18, 2011, 08:00:20 pm »
Martin sometimes life can be bloody cruel , sometimes you hear things you do not want to hear  , my be you did not like what I had to say  ?
but when you look back  what are relationships built on martin ?
communication and understanding
I do not know the way your feeling ,but think it feels bad
From the hint you gave us was communication
sometimes when you travel the unproven path that all of us  choose in this forum ,
the emotions that we go through leaving our women at the airport and all that
when we eventually get to the end of the road the sun shines so brightly
yes we have made it . but wait on a minute !!!!!
sometimes we can take our foot of the peddle thinking the hard work is done
nooooooooo  it is just starting , this is when communication needs to be stepped up
and also to understand your wife's feelings   
a strange country , different culture  , everything is out of your wife's comfort zone ,
my be break down in communication  is through maybe your wife not settling in your country , that can cause as break down in understanding and communication
sometimes it can happen we  do not see it coming
if this is part of the reason for your relationship with your wife to breakdown
maybe you can save it
maybe you can move to china maybe things will be better ?
one thing is for certain martin
sometimes marrying a Chinese women and taking her home to your country does not work out,sometimes many people take this for granted who knows
only time will tell martin .
how ever I wish you well in what you choose it does seem sad that after all you  have been through  just to throw it away seems senseless to me
but it good advice martin COMMUNICATION AND UNDERSTANDING is important in any relationship especially with a Chinese women with the different culture 

Rhonald  as for this situation with my wife's son  my wife as moved very quickly to nip this in the bud  my wife as sent a strong message to her son , she is now moving to my country
and as told him in no uncertain terms that I come first in her life
so he now as to stand up for himself and grow up , we hope in time he will accept me   
as a foot note to this post when I was in Chengdu for my wedding in the
 spring festival, I met up with one of my wife's friends she is married to a Canadian
I asked her if she liked Canada  as she spoke good English  her response was
I hate Canada  but I love my husband and that is were we will live
gives you food for thought   (as for me I think Canada is a cool place )

anyway Martin good luck

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #33 on: March 19, 2011, 01:23:10 pm »
Very sad to hear, Martin. I just hope you'll get through this OK and find the right one for you in the future, whatever nationality she is. Sometimes life sucks but even though it may not feel like it right now you will feel better as time passes. I hope you will feel ready to look for your true love soon again.

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #34 on: March 20, 2011, 10:02:46 am »
I had almost forgot until it was mentioned here. It has been bugging me for months. Would someone please PM me and tell me why Ted was banned?

Martin,
I hate to see someone throw in the towel after such an investment in time, money and emotion. But I am sure you gave it a lot of thought and you feel it is the best thing for you. I hope you can find someone else more suitable for you and recover quickly from this tragedy.  Best of luck to you.

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Re: That's it for me
« Reply #35 on: March 20, 2011, 02:24:21 pm »
Sorry to hear the news Martin. I hope when the dust has settled and all wounds have healed, that you'll find yourself a lovely lady. Thoughts are with you.
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