It is interesting to work through the problems and try and find a solution, or a compromise. At this point, well, it's not the letter I received through the agency and not what she said to me, but she apparently didn't think other people would talk to me. I'm not going to go into detail, but I've learned a great deal from friends and family. Yes, I managed to crack that nut. Her sister offered to help me because the family absolutely adored me. Yes, grandma's funeral was an issue with mama, those things happen. Apparently since her divorce she has had a bit of a self-destructive streak. Then she met me, as I'm told anyway. So the hard part for me, is she is running away from me, because I am not just some random person who she could hang around for a while, drain my wallet and then push me off.
Most of her friends and family are telling me to cut and run, which is depressing to say the least. She now, is not responding, period.
I still have my tickets to China and I still plan on attending John's wedding, b/c I want to see if he gets the whole circus or not for a wedding party. I have other friends inviting me to different areas, including Beijing, Guangzhou, Qingdao and Xi'an. There's also one friend on qq who has gone a bit psychotic offering herself to be a good and true wife. She has scared me a little.
In the meantime, it's life, I have to work and do other things, I'm gonna talk with my other friends and see where things go.