all I can say is, "good luck" you're going to need it if he's being a twinkie. I found out, because VA is "threatening" to relocate me to Hawaii, that most people in Hebei and Beijing know exactly where and what Hawaii is.
So he's just being difficult, that's what ex's do, or so I'm told, I'd never know, as I only have ex-girlfriends who didn't cut the mustard.
Now I'm just going for it...