I have friends in China and here in the US. When I find some one that is serious about me and I am about them they are willing to talk to the lady or to check them out. These individuals have the means to do so before anyone asks if that is possible. ( They have offered my parents and I a fully paid for one month trip to China with a private car, driver, top of the line Hotels, etc.. ) Should I bring this up to the lady I am presently writing to or not? A friend's family lives in the same city as she is in and is willing to go and meet her to see if she a "good lady and family". Any suggestions?